are scars unattractive?

A good guy who is accepting and understanding would not judge you or be put off by anything so 'surface' as skin… believe me

I know people with scars and do not give it a second thought …

 

It wouldnt matter to me. I'm the type of person that see's something like this and i just wanna protect you more. You will find someone like that in time (*hug*)

 

I have a Skin condition that can get very bad at times, I know how you feel. It really knocks at your confidence. but I've realized that If someone isn't willing to look past it, they're not worth your time. There are plenty of people that'll be concerned at first and be completely fine afterwards.

 

I have scars and I never had an issue. Guys seem to be accepting. Mine are fairly covered with hair though, I have really hairy legs so you can't see them. I'm sorry you had a rough time, stay strong (*hug*)

 

One of the models i work with, has some scars from a fire accident, and... it was kind of awkward to work around them, so as to not appear in photos, but...

One day she told me that she was fine, talking about her scars... and that, basically alleviated the whole "awkward" factor and it was all good.

The idea that i'm trying to push here is that, if you yourself accept your scars and don't make a huge deal out of them, then your partner won't as well. As long as you actually relay to him what your view on the matter is.

 

If I had a boyfriend with self harm scars I would kiss them, then kiss him, tell him its ok, that I love him and that theres no reason for him to ever have to do that again. That's how any decent boyfriend should react. With love and support, not some idiotic display of superficiality

Other scars are even less of a big deal. I think you shouldnt worry about this so much (*hug*)

 

I have scars from self hsrm and my gf accepts thst ive been through rough times

 

Scars should not be something that makes another person "ugly" or "unlovable". If anything it means that the person deserves a lot more respect because for most scars are signs of being survivors. I would not be bothered in the slightest if my girlfriend or a person I was dating had self-harm scars, and if the person you are dating thinks that you're worse because of them that person is not someone that you should be having a relationship with. Anyone who really loves you should respect you and love you just the way you are, outside and inside.

Stay strong (*hug*)

 

Personally, I don't mind them at all. It might make me sad if I knew they were from self-harm, just because I've been in that position before and know how it feels. But other than that, they don't bother me at all.

 

That would make me sad I guess on an emotional level but it wouldn't really be that bad. Heck I always feel self conscious about my freaking skinny chest.

 

I've got quite a few scars from self-harm and my boyfriend doesn't mind them. He says knowing I once felt so bad I had to do that to myself hurts but that's all he's ever said about them. I would definitely date someone with scars, I don't mind them.

 

I don't mind them at all. Perhaps it's society that told you to have a perfect skin, but how realistic is that..? There's nothing wrong with having scars. =)

 

i hope not Joshy, i have too many. not from self harm but from surgery and fights as a kid. my ex wife didn't like looking at them but i can't get rid of them either. i hope that whoever i end up with can accept me scars, inside and out, and all. i hope you can too.(*hug*)

 

Joshy, my bae has severe scars on his one arm from suicide attempts. It just makes me want to cry and hold him when I see them. Hold him so tight to me he'll never be harmed They are part of who he is, and I accept everything about him.

Aesthetics are not nearly as important to me, as the feeling I have when he's around. He makes me feel on top of the world most of the times (when I'm not worried about him.)

 

Not at all. ^.^