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Anyone out there okay with being a virgin?

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  1. Alt

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    I am not religious, so I am not maintaining my cherries due to scripture. I stay one because I would like to lose it to someone I like, not someone whose looks I like. I don't mean to insult my more promiscuous brethren, I've just read a few too many posts about people feeling bad about their virgin status and how they will never experience sex.

    Yes, I know it's a social construct. I also know that my decision is most certainly due to my religious upbringing.
     
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  2. CharlsOn

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    What's the problem in being a virgin anyways?
    One day it'll happen, most probably.
    So why rush things and worry about it?
    Why make it that complicated?
    Things can be easy. They actually are...
     
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    The most common reasons I've read are, in today's world that encourages one night stands and flings I feel like I am too old-fashioned in wanting a relationships. Or, I feel I am not desirable so no one will ever want to have sex with me so being a virgin is a sign of being ugly.
     
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    Hello society, hello comparison.
    Just bc you haven't found the one you wanna have it with doesn't mean it will never happen or you're ugly.
    Society makes itself sick. There's nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin.
    Or am I wrong?
     
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    Hello :slight_smile:,

    I think that you shouldn´t worry about it. I am a virgin too and I am also waiting for a serious relationship. I just want to be sure that I will lost my virginity (can I say it like that?) with the right man :slight_smile:. My biggest current problem is that I don´t have any boyfriend and I have never had so far and it makes me feel alone and depressed :icon_sad:.

    Good luck and I hope you will find someone who will truly love you :thumbsup:
     
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    No :slight_smile:

    (*hug*)
     
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    Thank you:slight_smile:
     
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    Since you asked, the correct way to say it is lose since you are speaking of the future. I am okay with being one! Honestly there will be guys fighting each other for you if they know you are a virgin. Since you are waiting for the right man, don't be depressed! You've only been searching for maybe 6 years of your 18, you still have a lot of life left!

    CharslOn, there's nothing wrong!
     
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  9. Marty18

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    Oh, thank you for your correction, grammar isn´t my cup of tea :dry:.

    The reason I feel depressed is that I am quite complicated and I just think too much about everything sometimes. But don´t be afraid, I will not do anything stupid :icon_wink.
     
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    Oh yea, sounds familiar.
    Thinking is deadly sometimes:wink:
    Even when it's extremely hard, try to reduce your uhm "thinking amount" a bit.
    Solves some problems.:slight_smile:
     
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    I don't believe in virginity to begin with; so why would it matter? I believe in saving myself for someone special to not deal with emotional consequences, but I won't be 'losing' anything by sharing my body with them.
     
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    I'm not a virgin but I'm okay with people who are but like falling I don't believe in it either I think the whole concept is silly but I respect people who are virgins .
     
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    Yay virgins. Ugh I'm kind of lonely though :/
     
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    I'm practically the polar opposite of a virgin, but I don't mind virgins, heh.
    Why would I? Why would it matter? I don't even care for what reason.
    Although I do find "No sex before marriage" concepts quite silly and amusing.
     
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    I don't see the problem with not having sex. To many, sex is an act of great intimacy. To those people, having sex with someone you don't truly love is deeply wrong. Personally, I just don't feel particularly compelled to do it. I've never had a particularly active sex drive. I recognize that people are sexually attractive, I even react physically when I see attractive people, I just don't feel the desire to actually do it. As such, I too am a virgin.
     
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    No, there need to be more people like you!!! Stay old-fashioned, please!!(*hug*) You will find and fall in love with someone who you deserve and who deserves you and you will know when you've found that person. True love is seriously the most amazing feeling in the world. Cliché, I know, but it's true. And when you have found that person, you will be ready to give yourself to them, body and soul. Losing your virginity in that way will be so incredibly special.

    Please stay awesome and don't let societal pressure or peer pressure or any kind of pressure make you feel like you should settle for anything less than what you know you deserve.
     
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    I'm okay with it. I want it to happen at the right time, when I'm in love with someone and won't have any regrets about it. I'm not rushing it...I know when the time is right and it's meant to be it will happen
     
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    Many people feel that sex is something that's at its best when it is a meaningful experience between two people who want to connect on a deep level, and true, deep, intimate sex requires a level of vulnerability that you can't achieve with someone you don't know well.

    On the other hand, some people really enjoy the intense physical experience and that's good enough for them without the deep emotional bond.

    Neither is right or wrong, and sometimes people engage in both types of sex.

    The bottom line is, do what your heart tells you to do. If you want to wait for the right circumstance, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.
     
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    I'm okay with being a virgin

    ---------- Post added 28th Nov 2014 at 05:06 PM ----------

    I don't see anything wrong with it
     
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    I find being a virgin to be kinda amusing sometimes; every year older more so.

    The only irritation is having people tease you about it.
     
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