I have always wondered this. And I've been tempted a little to live such a closeted life where I'd somehow have sex with a woman. But how do they do it? Like how can someone fake a romance and a sex life for years upon years? I can't imagine one time, but a whole lifetime? It just boggles my mind. Do they even last past a few minutes? Can a gay guy really go for hours rock hard when having sex with a woman all on imagination alone? I've been feeling tempted to do this with my life. Can someone please talk me out of this?
Well, I was drunk, so that somewhat helped. But it still wasn't very enjoyable, and I didn't finish. Wouldn't recommend it at all.
I think a lot of gay guys live in denial for a long time. I don't even think they are conscience of their own "lie".
Some people are just very sexual and can have sex with anyone even if they're not too interested in their partner. Otherwise, I assume they imagine they're somewhere else.
As a gay man that had sex with a woman regularly for years. It was not a very enjoyable experience. I found my self repulsed by it. If you put your member in anything it will feel good. I found my self thinking of men regularly. I also kept my eyes closed and was always left unsatisfied. I never came, I had to...satisfy that...after the fact.
It's not that hard (no pun intended) if you ask them to give you oral beforehand, and close your eyes.
Yes, a gay person could have sex with a woman. Remember; the penis hardens in response to physical and mental stimulation. A man may use his hand to masturbate, and mind to imagine. No other person required. The same thing can occur with a female there. It's just not going to be pleasurable. In fact quite the opposite. Especially since for many there's going to be a sense of revulsion (if curious as to what that might feel like, imagine having sex with your mother/father). Many gay men will also get themselves really drunk, which isn't healthy. So remember; yeah it's possible. Just doesn't mean they're going to like it.
To be frank, a vagina feels amazing. I only came out a few weeks ago and have never been with a man so I can't compare but yeah, a vagina feels unbelievable. I didn't really feel so attracted to my girlfriend, she just knew how to touch me to make me feel good and I enjoyed touching her and making her feel good.
Well. To me it's somewhat spontaneous. I consider myself gay but I can have sex with girls. I can tell it's physically satisfying but not as mentally fulfilling as having sex with a guy. I agree that a vagina feels really great. It should be 'coz it's designed for that purpose, right? Maybe there's a spectrum. Everyone's different.
Well, it's really interesting to hear your experiences with vagina lool. But hearing how good it feels makes it EVEN MORE tempting to live a closeted life to be honest. Although I won't do that to myself because I've heard too many negative experiences with suppressing sexuality to do that.
As others have said, when your member is stimulated, it doesn't really matter who is stimulating it. You just won't be (as) satisfied as with a guy. I did it for years with women. It felt good, but something always felt 'off' and I feel way more satisfied now.
Before I came out to myself, I had no issues whatsoever having sex with a woman. Even if I was continuously questioning my own sexuality. I was able to get aroused and actually enjoy it. It never did feel as good as sex with a guy based on my experiences from when I was younger, but it was sufficient nonetheless. After I came out to myself, all interest for sex with a woman was completely lost; and now I do not think that I could even get aroused. I guess sexuality is a bit dynamic and clearly tied to someone's state of mind.
I think this can be about bifurcation. Post #9 says it. While it and breasts can be arousing, the person they're attached to can either be someone you're not attracted to facially or someone you couldn't see getting along with on a long-term basis. Then, when they want a commitment, it makes the sex all that much worse and if you connect sex with neediness, that's a huge turn off. That is, if you're not emotionally interested in them. The bifurcation I refer to is that the sexual and emotional interest differ. I think most guys, straight, gay, and anything else, find other guys easier to get along with. This doesn't mean you're emotionally attracted to them. It just means they're easier to get along with. Also, sex is not as much of a mind fuck or cosmic experience that is so emotionally loaded, so it's also easy to get aroused by and get off with them. I think that, if anyone can be aroused if around a woman, they have a shred of bisexuality in them. It's when they can't be that they're most likely gay. And I have known guys who have been in situations like this, based on stories they've told me, and unable to perform with women ... and this is when we were in our teens and 20s. These same guys also committed to being gay right around that very same time and embraced it.
Not everyone needs to experience sexual attraction in order to engage in sexual activity with someone--plain and simple. This is especially proven by sexually active asexuals (and no, that's not an oxymoron, if you don't understand, please contact me privately for an explanation).
Don't do that to an innocent woman. No offense to all you gay guys who consider doing this just to cover your sexuality but.. It's really quiet silly imo. Live your life and don't take away a woman's chance at being with her true love.
Yeah this. It's bad enough when you're closeted from yourself. I can't imagine, especially now, with knowing yourself and still doing all of that. Unfair to you and to any woman you marry. It's an unhealthy, lying relationship just from the start
Good point. Some guys wise up more quickly on this and some guys wise up later. Then, some guys don't even go here. But I hear what you're saying.
when I was in my early 20's, my wife said that I would fuck a broomstick, and that's pretty much the way it was, with a really high sex drive. but beyond that, it took a LOT of gay fantasy, including verbalization and at times even gay porn. eventually, nothing worked. Still no problem with men, but with women it becomes difficult or impossible past a certain age. If you are gay and considering how you might marry a woman and have sex with her, I suggest you examine that closely. In my case, I was in denial, and so highly sexed at that aged that it was just hard to tell. But to intentionally use a woman as a beard just to pass is a different situation. In fairness to her, it's something that you would certainly want to have an honest discussion about before getting in too deep, don't you think?
