Are most gay men tops or bottoms?

Most are versatile

 

Someone should really make a poll.

 

Oh believe me, most guys will just ask your role before meeting if it's not the very first question they ask, well I guess it depends on the "dating site", but it's definetely something that comes up sooner than later.

And regarding your other question, yes, probably most gay guys are versatile, not 50/50 of course, but they can enjoy both ways, but there are also some gay guys who consider themselves exclusive tops (or bottoms), so you shouldn't have a problem finding one. Now that's not to say there won't be any incompatibilities but the only way to know is to try, talk, and hopefully finding something that works for both of you.

Good luck.

 

There is an extreme difference between claiming to be straight while carrying out sexual relationships with members of the same sex and being in the closet. One is an example of someone who hasn't overcome a specific obstacle in their lives and the other is an example of someone who is refusing to even acknowledge it.

I would seriously start seeing a potential partner referring themselves as straight or straight-acting as a glaring red flag. At the very least, understand that the interactions that you are going to have with them are most likely not going anywhere beyond sexual. There are plenty of men fitting your personal tastes who wouldn't have any trouble forming commitment and being open.

I could add one; however, there was recently a poll on the topic.

 

I feel the same way as a sexual role. And in my short experience, I find most out there to be vers.

 

Well, it is important to remember that being versatile simply means being open to the possibility of carrying out either action. It doesn't mean that they can't be satisfied with being with someone who wasn't interested in doing the same. I have known many versatile men who preferred to stay in a certain role depending on the characteristics of each specific partner. If the intention is to find a partner who is satisfied with maintaining that role, then I don't believe it would be that difficult to find a compatible partner.

However, it is starting to sound as though this goes deeper than just finding a partner who prefers to top. You have mentioned that you are turned off by the simple fact that your partner finds penetrations pleasurable at all. How do you feel about reciprocation, in the sense of foreplay?

 

Hmm, well if online polls are any realistic indicator, it's versatile, followed by bottom, and last, top. The cynic in me wants to say most versatiles lean towards bottom, but I'll reserve judgment until I meet more.

 

There is something about the way this is worded that amuses me. It reads as though the negative in this situation is discovering that a versatile man is actually an undercover bottom. Then again, it is understandable. Heaven knows the bottom population triples with each passing day. :lol:

 

I want to be versatile. But uh... being bottom hurts me and I am afraid to try it again. Even though I want to try it again, In fact I desperately want to try it again. But all I feel is pain, not pleasure.

 

While I agree with everyone that most guys are probably (at least somewhat) versatile, there are definitely also guys out there who are exclusive tops. Or guys who'd bottom if their partner really wanted them to, but who don't really enjoy it and would much rather just top. (I guess in a way you can call those "versatile," but really ideally they're just tops). Example: me!

Also, I think it's worth noting that the group that answered that poll isn't really representative of the entire population. Over the years, I've found that EC Members generally form a very specific group and are completely different than most other LGBT people I've encountered; on other forums, dating sites, as well as in real life. I'm pretty sure poll results would be very different when you take it on other forums or on the streets.

 

Ah right, I remember now.

 

I think finding an exclusive top or bottom is rarer than finding someone's whose versatile with a preference. And it can change too. My bf was almost exclusively a bottom until he met me, and now he tops about 3/4 of the time.

I met my bf on an online dating site, and when you go on there you answer lots of questions about yourself, everything from sexual interests to hobbies to philosophy on life. And there was a question asking about preferred sexual role. So that's how you find out, at least on that site.

 

I think I'm versatile, though the guy last night claimed to be a top and then changed his mind when we were getting down to our... gay stuff lol Maybe it's because he was drunk haha

 

Neither. Topping or bottoming are just sexual activities and gay men can enjoy either one.