I can't come for him. I just can't. I don't know what it is. I get close but I just never cross the tipping point. Even after doing everything. It's starting to really fucking piss me off. It's embarrassing for both of us. Help?!
Close your eyes, let your mind wander and get lost in any kinky pleasurable hedonistic selfish desire your mind can possibly conceive, and let your partner know. Act it out on him, let it possess you and drive you mad with lust. (!) The mind is the greatest sexual tool because everything is influenced by perceptions. You're either inhibiting yourself and not finding not finding enough stimulation. Creativity would really help you here.
greatwhale, I would consider it. Even though I'm not happy about it xylaz, I like the way you think :lol:
I have heard that sometimes when people are nervous or uncomfortable it can prevent them from being sexually aroused, and so I assume it could also prevent people from having an orgasm. Is this a possibility that you might be uncomfortable or nervous? If I may ask, have you had a lot of sexual encounters?
He's my first, EC. That's probably it. He even suggested that it may be "stage fright". Like I feel pressure to do it so I focus on the pressure and it prevents me from actually doing it..... But like I don't know how can I prevent that. I just want to feel normal and come like every other normal guy.
In my experience (as a girl, but still…), the more you think about it, the harder it is. Especially if it's been multiple times, the pressure is higher. Just try to relax and let it happen.
skydiver, my bf didn't have an orgasm for the first 2 years of our relationship. I was also his first and he expressed all the same things you did like getting close but not over the tipping point. He was feeling frustrated and other negative things about himself and frankly he felt inadequate. We got lucky by playing very slowly one Sunday for 4 hours and I hit him inside in the right spot and its been gushing ever since. He needed to be relaxed and I needed to learn what to do to his body. This takes time and effort but its been so worth it. btw it doesn't take him 4 hours to orgasm anymore(!)
It sounds like you are nervous. It is very true that for a lot of people it can put a dampner on the sex life, especially (and sorry if I assume wrong) as a lot of people watch porn, which often gives an unrealistic view of sex, and the fear of it not being as amazing (penis not big enough, don't last long enough, it hurts etc) can often put self pressure. The world in general is very sexualised and there is pressure for everything to be perfect. Again, this will weigh on the mind and put a dampner on it physically. I get this issue too sometimes. Especially if it has been a while.
