To bottoms, how do you ease up the pain?

All dicks don´t cause pain, it depends on shape. Some creams are said to ease the pain, google and order online if you can. Also trying different positions during sex will help.
And of course your partner has to be a loving one, who understands you (*hug*) Good luck and be careful.

 

Have a look at some of these useful threads:
http://emptyclosets.com/forum/physi...formative-threads-physical-sexual-health.html

In short, bottoming shouldn't be painful at all. If you haven't bottomed before, or often, you may experience a little discomfort, but it shouldn't reach the level where you are in pain. A good, attentive top will not want his bottoming partner to experience pain or distress. If that's how he gets his kicks he deserves to be deprived of sex forever.

 

Based strictly on my own experience: I'll try to be as clinical as possible. I don't want this to read like a porn script.
For me it starts in the brain. It wasn't always that way but the more I did it the better I liked it and the more I wanted it.
I prefer using a fleet type OTC drugstore enema or two beforehand. You don't need to empty your whole bowel, just the rectal area. It's cleaner, making for a more pleasurable experience for all participants. More importantly, if your rectal area is empty you won't get the mood killing and uncomfortable bloated feeling created by whatever is thrusting inside you. Administering the enemas can even be part of the foreplay especially with a familiar partner.
It doesn't have to be really painful. Learn what it’s like by playing with toys. Start small, get comfortable with it and work your way up in size. Forget porn star sized toys. An average size penis is about 5 ½” long and about 1 ½ “ diameter. That’s big enough to be pleasurable, small enough to be comfortable. With some practice you will hopefully be able to comfortably accommodate those dimensions. If you don’t want to invest in the commercial variety there are plenty of things around the house and in the hardware or grocery store aisles. Cucumbers inside a condom work well and come in all sizes. BUT, above all, use toys with large ends that won’t let the whole thing get swallowed up inside you or be very careful.
Use PLENTY of good lube. It comes in many varieties. I like a thick water based lube like good ‘ol KY. It’s very slippery, inexpensive and cleans up easily. It tends to dry out during extended use but a few drops of water will bring it right back to life or squeeze out a little more. I’ve heard of guys using Prep H. It sounds reasonable. It’s slippery and is a mild pain reliever so it might make entry a little easier.
Foreplay helps you relax and raises the heat. Hugging and feeling the warmth of your lover’s body is very effective. The area just outside your anus is a bundle of nerves. Lightly running a finger or two around and inside the anus can be very arousing and helps make you mentally receptive.
Control the action by selecting the position. Straddling the top gives you the most control. Only you can control the penetration in that position. If it starts to hurt simply slow down. Pushing out like you do when having a bowel movement helps ease the penetration. Once the top is inside you also control the thrusting. I like a slow rhythmic action. Forget that battering ram stuff shown in porn. I don’t know anyone who likes that.
I wish you luck discovering the joys of anal sex with considerate lovers. Enjoy.

 

I've had sex without lube, and sex with a variety of girths- some of the most painful and unpleasant experiences that I can remember! Basically, you must tell him to stop, and let yourself become accustomed to the pain. then take deep deep breaths- audible breadths even, and it should all become good.

 

try to push out like you are going to poop, wile he is inserting his penis -- that will help expand your mussels.
That helps for me.--but be cleaned out first LOL!

 

I echo the above comment. Push out like you're trying to take a dump. If you've already had a dump, then you should be fine.

Just try to be as relaxed as possible. You kind of have to consciously stop yourself from tightening up, but it becomes second nature over time.

If it hurts, stop. Take a deep breath. Try again.

 

Push like you're passing stool. Provided you have already passed stool, you're not going to have a mess.

Also, I should point out you have to control the speed of penetration. One thing I have found from using my dildo (which I love, by the way) is that you can't fight your sphincter. It will relax when it's ready. Even if you try to "push," and it's not ready yet for more, it's going to hurt. You have to keep breathing, push, and also wait for your anal sphincter to be ready to accept more.

Hopefully all of the suggestions above will make it more fun.

Happy buttfucking! :3

 

Find a partner with a smaller/average penis. I personally believe some people are too well-endowed for anal sex.

 

"bottom" line, if it hurts, stop. you may be doing some damage. give it a rest for a minute, and then resume. if it still hurts, stop and do something else.

 

This is very true. ^^^

I find this difficult too as most of the experiences I've had bottoming, I have not enjoyed.

But I do agree that certain positions are better and bigger sizes can be more painful.