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Sexual anxiety

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by acoop2290, Feb 13, 2015.

  1. acoop2290

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    The guy I am dating isn't out of the closet. He has never done anything sexual with anyone, except me. I am his first, well, everything. I have came on here several times for advice because I never had any anxiety about my sexuality or gay sex....

    However, he seems to have this problem. He is all for kissing me and felling on me. But, I have tried to go down on him a couple times and he just over thinks it all and has me stop doing it. He has never reached completion with me. He says..."it's weird." I know he is deff not ready to try anal...it has been 4 months and I want to help the relationship get a little more sexual/ him more comfortable with at least oral. I can tell he is an anxious mess when I do go down on him and was wondering if anyone ever had this problem and if anyone knew ways to help out. As far as anal goes...he doesn't know if he would ever be comfortable with it...I mean he is gay. I understand some people don't like it, but he has never tried it. I just want to know if there is anyone out there that was like him in the beginning.

    We have great communication on the subject and I don't rush him into anything he isn't ready for...I just think there is something else up....he has no problem...well being aroused by me..it is just he over thinks the actually act of it....he also told me he doesn't even watch a lot of gay porn, he just looks at pictures. Should I try and put on gay porn or something else? Maybe even just try masturbating together. Thanks for your help!
     
  2. slushhhhy

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    i think the last things you suggest sound good - perhaps ask him? you say you have great communication so maybe the best thing is to suggest those things to him?

    i don't know what felling is but have you tried just giving him handjobs or kissing other parts of his body, so he's used to your mouth being in different places? the purpose being to make him feel more relaxed/turned on so that he's more comfortable with the next step?
     
  3. Omla

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    Sounds like he needs some good therapy....

    Good luck!
    Al