Hey, everyone! So I've dating an amazing guy who is ridiculously attractive. But when we do our thing, it takes me forever to finish and he can within a few minutes. I feel kind of bad because I don't want him to think he isn't good or something. I was doing him for about 25 minutes in like six different positions the other night and still couldn't cum without finishing myself. Anyone else have this problem? Any tips?
My boyfriend has this problem. It's called delayed ejaculation. A lot of times, he can't cum without jacking off and even then it takes him forever. Sometimes he can and sometimes he can't. I did feel bad at first like it was my fault. But he said he loves sex with me and it's not my fault. Just his condition. I would just communicate with him and let him know that you are enjoying sex with him and it's not his fault at all. Unfortunately, I don't have any advice to help you cum sooner. If you figure it out, please let me know!
Hi, Mike. Couple questions... 1. How long have you been with this person? 2. Have you had this issue with other people, or has it been no problem (or is he your first) 3. When you are masturbating by yourself, does it typically take you as long a time to reach orgasm, or is it substantially shorter? This will make it easier to give you a clear answer.
I had this same problem last night(Valentine's Day) as my bf was giving me a blowjob. I would be very interested to learn more. I got quite hard, but he was scraping his teeth against me and sucking kind of hard. He kept doing it, so I asked him to jerk me off by hand...still couldn't finish. I tried to jerk myself off, still nothing. The whole session lasted 15 minutes. And this is my new bf. I did have an fwb before, and it did take longer to come anyways when I was with him usually, and I bottomed. That was back in my teens. When masturbating by myself, it normally takes me awhile most nights, and I usually only get off on bondage porn. I only watch it like once every 2 days and for like an hour or so. So while it may be not be ruining my everyday life, I am worried that I can only orgasm with porn. Should I go to SA(sex anonymous) @ my local lgbt center, or would they laugh at me? I am sorry to derail your topic, Mike.
Gradually over time, you should be able to develop a routine and it'll be quicker. Enjoy whilst you can the...delayed gratification. Also sometimes condom usage (especially the quality) can be to blame.
Hey, Chip! 1. I've been with him for just three weeks. 2. The last guy I was with we only had sex a few times, and he would finish less than five minutes after I put it in. I was able to finish in a decent timeframe when he didn't cum so quick. 3. When I'm on my own, I can finish pretty quickly if I want, but I always wait to cum for around a 30-60 minutes. I'm sure that probably isn't helping. I have the same problem when he's blowing me. It feels really good, but I never get close to finishing. Don't know if I'm just nervous and don't realize it or if I just take forever to cum.
I have yet to come from topping or oral. Some people just have trouble with it. Try stopping to masturbate for a few days before having sex.
I am having the same problem as you. The other weekend when we saw each other i was penetrating him for over half an hour but i didn't manage to finish and i even ended up going soft :icon_sad: And so i had to finish myself manually but i always take a long time to finish when i'm with him and we have kind of accepted it as the norm but if anybody has any advice that would be great.
