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Weird strapon kink?

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by Cutiepop, Feb 28, 2015.

  1. Cutiepop

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    I used to watch strapon lesbian porn and sometimes the bottom would give the top girl who is wearing the strap a blowjob and basically lick and suck herself off the strap. Right now I'm kind of not sure if I like this kink or not but if I do turn onto it I'm afraid it's wrong to like it because don't straight and bi girls enjoy giving fellatio? I don't have any attraction to men or penises but isn't this a weird kink for a lesbian to have? I feel alone here
     
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    This is just an idea I've taken from the conversations I've seen about similar subjects ... it really seems like there's this stigma within the lesbian community that you're not a real lesbian if you have any attraction to anything phallic whatsoever. Like it lowers your lesbian credit score or something. Personally I think it's bullshit. If you're a girl and you like girls but not boys you're a lesbian, period. At least that's what I think.
     
  3. Wildside

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    I don't think it's about how you play with the toys, but who you're having sex with. Think of it the other way around: if you were trying to defend yourself against being called a lesbian, and you said that you give your lesbian lover blowjobs on her dildo, do you think that they would be convinced? Of course not. The key here is that you are having sex with women. that's what makes you lesbian.
     
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    Not weird at all! My girlfriend wears the strap-on and one of her biggest fantasies is making me use my mouth on it. And I'm more than happy to oblige. :icon_redf
     
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    No, it's perfectly normal and not a weird kink. It is actually very common for Femmes(not lipsticks) to do to their strapped Butches. Especially if your lover is a harder Butch or a Stone Butch. It is a way of honoring her masculine side.

    I will try to explain it better, the terms Femme used to indicate ONLY lesbians who date Butches, or masculine of center lesbians. Lipstick lesbian was a term coined in the 90's to indicate feminine women who dated other lesbians, usually only other feminine ones. The terms are interchangeable now, but for this explanation, I will use the original terms as they were used before Lipstick lesbian became a word.

    Ok, in the Butch/Femme community, a Butch lesbian had certain things that she naturally does,(that feel right to her) to consider herself Butch. Aside from being masculine of center, and dating only Femme women, she is the main one who wears the strap on. This is a direct physical expression of their masculine side, being the one who penetrates their woman and pleases them. So, they have a tendancy to look for JUST the right strapon, and harness and see it as an extension of who they are as a masculine of center sexual being. We all know that the biggest sexual organ is the brain, so a Butch really into her strapon is almost connected to it and by giving it head, you are also pleasuring her, by honoring her masculinity. It is considered a very intimate and pleasurable activity for both partners.

    It was not really seen much outside of the Butch/Femme dynamic, but it has been lately because of the blurring of the exact stereotypes of what is a Butch and what is a Femme and stuff like this. Which is a relief for sure, but causes confusion, and major judgement by, most often, the general lesbian culture.

    Butch/Femme is a sub-culture inside of the lesbian culture, much like BDSM is a subculture inside of general sexuality. So, it is a perfectly normal activity but newer to general lesbian culture. General lesbian culture often will say anything used besides a partners hand for penetration or pleasure is due to Patriarchy, or means you are actually Bi or not really lesbian, etc. because it means you really want a man. They are incorrect. This really messes up our younger generations of girls coming up and they don't know anything because they don't have mentors. Now, younger soft butches and lipsticks don't realize that this is part of a healthy sexual relationship.

    I hope this helps.
     
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    Thanks for explaining this. LOL.

    Anyways, to the OP, I would consider the argument that lesbian shouldn't like anything phallic to be nonsense. It would be like saying to a gay/bi man that he shouldn't top because he is betraying his gayness/queerness.
     
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    I know, right? The whole stereotype thing really needs to go. I am glad some of the younger LGBTs are starting to toss those babies away!
     
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