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Kissing?

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by Cynder, Mar 7, 2015.

  1. Cynder

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    I just don't know how to kiss. I'm really bad at it and I get nervous, and I feel my anxiety about kissing is holding back my relationships. So how do I/you kiss?
     
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    You really can't describe it well over the internet; it's best to simply be awkward at it and get better with practice :wink:

    Don't be nervous though, or at least tell the other person if you are. I'd find it super cute. They won't look down on you for it.
     
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    I agree with this. Just be honest.

    99% of the time the other persons response will be "let me show you how to kiss properly" or "I don't really know what I'm doing either". Either way you are covered and have nothing to worry about.
     
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    Pay attention to how people do it in movies or porn. Practice on a pillow if you have to. Just remember, kissing too soft and being gentle is a better way to start out than too rough. A kiss is supposed to be tender.

    Lastly, like the others have said, it's something that gets better with practice.
     
  5. Blackbirdz

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    Let me give some tips on how to kiss, because kissing is my favorite part. :kiss: I think the biggest mistake you can make is to try to force it. Like, if you start smushing your face into the other person's face and then attempt to rhythmically open and close your lips like a fish making bubbles, it's no good. Kissing should be very relaxed.

    Start out by just holding your face close to the other person's face to the point where you can feel each others breath on your lips. The idea is to place your face so close to someone else's face that you invade their personal space. To pause at that distance and stay there is a very intimate act.

    After a few moments, slowly move forward until your lips gently touch and leave a small kiss -just a grazing of the lips, because you need to build up to the full-on kiss. The next step is to open your mouth and run your tongue softly over the other person's lips. Again, you must be gentle - don't shove your tongue into the person's face; it's always a light touch. Your partner may open their mouth in the same way and reciprocate.

    Eventually, the mutual lip-licking will give rise to tongue-on-tongue contact. This naturally progresses into an actual French kiss, which starts with the two tongues feeling each other out and can progress to sticking your tongue inside your partner's mouth or sucking on their tongue/lips, etc.

    So, I would say that sensual kissing is more about the tongue than the lips. I also stress that a good kiss should be relaxed, soft and gentle. But the most important aspect of kissing, which I haven't mentioned yet is eye contact. At the beginning and every once in a while you should try to make eye contact with your partner. I feel that if you close your eyes through the whole ordeal, then the intimacy is ruined. You might as well be kissing your dog if you're not going to look.

    Hope you find these tips helpful. :lol:
     
    #5 Blackbirdz, Mar 7, 2015
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