Hi Everyone, I've been having a body image issue for a while now and I figured I would come here and talk about it. I am 5'8" and 170 pounds. Though I do not look overweight, I am considered overweight by BMI and considered "obese and ugly" by gay men in the community. I feel so gross about myself and that I will never be like the community. I feel like the one community I'm supposed to feel a part of has ostracized me for being "gay fat" and not having rippling muscles or being really thin. So many times I wish I had someone else's body. I figure if I did I would have someone that loves me.
Yeah, certain elements of the gay community do have a bit of a reputation for having high standards when it comes to male attractiveness. Unfortunately I don't think that is going to be changing any time soon. While it is not possible to magically get someone else's body, do you partake in any sort of fitness activities? You don't necessarily have to go the gym for hours and hours every week, but some amount of exercise and watching what one eats can go a long way to improving body image.
This ^^^ But OP do yourself a favor; do this for YOU and not for some shallow, jerky Adonis who is so far up his ass he reeks of it. Doing this for someone else puts you at the mercy of their high standards. Find your own power and motivation and give yourself the control...just a thought to motivate you man. I hope you succeed cause it's possible.
Sweetie, I'm sure you look beautiful! (*hug*) I'm 5'9" and 198! Although I look overweight, I still find many things to like about my own appearance, even if my weight is not where I want it to be. For you, I imagine, sure, you might get some people who will date nobody less than a gay porn star or a body builder, but then I pity those people. Because they aren't really realistic about their attraction. Also, I think it's a bit presumptuous of those people to think that they people they are attracted to would be interested in them in return. 170 is a wonderful weight to be, at your height!
I am 5'11" and 225 and have a bf. I have body issues too, but you get a man who has the right personality and loves you for who you are. We need to get more than just skin deep.
I Know where your coming from man. Two years ago i was 5'10" and 192 lbs and I hated it so i decided to try and get in shape. Now at 18 I'm 161 lbs and i still don't feel I have the perfect body image people would want. I don't have huge muscles or skinny like most want. Everyone faces body image challenges and its such a big deal in today's world its you can't avoid seeing it. Whether or not you believe it there are people out there who are into people for whats on the inside not the outside. I hate seeing others suffer from the same thing i still do because everyone's is beautiful in their own ways, but be you, and love that person. If people can't see what you have inside is special then they don't deserve you. I am rooting for you man, everyone is.
Your hanging around the wrong people if people you are with have an issue. You only need to be happy with yourself. Those that focus on Body I,age only are shallow and not worth the effort. There are more out there that could care less about body image than those that do, u just need to look differently than where your looking now.
BMI calculators suck cause they make you feel inadequate. I have major body issues and the worst thing you can do is get on a scale everyday or check your BMI or count your calories. Sorry for the rant, but this is important to me. We can't change who we are at this moment, but we can choose to be with people who care about the real us.
BMI is way too simplistic. It doesn't account for body shape or musculature. I used to be a successful competitive athlete and because of my physique, BMI always said that I was overweight bordering on Obese. It's important to be healthy and happy with who you are
