Depression

We're both in the same situation I think.

I have all the same symptoms except for weight gain and bad grades... My grades are going up and down, so I can't really count those, but I seem to have a lot of the same things you do.

Does your stomach seem to be upset only in the mornings generally?

 

Yup...sounds like depression to me. I have battled with anxiety/depression
for years. I was on Paxil for a long time and it got to the point
of not working,anymore.
I'm still trying to find the right one.
I'm glad you're going to a professional. Depression totally sucks. It's nothing to
be ashamed about. Many people suffer from it for different reasons and to
different degrees.
I have clinical depression. My father had serious mental problems,so it's no
surprise that me and my sister have issues. Thankfully nothing even close
to the severity of his. Ours can be controlled with meds.
I wish you luck. I hope everything turns out well for you.
Mickey*

 

Same thing here.

 

I'm talking to a counselor right now (two, actually) and it really, really helps.

 

I'm a college freshmen.

I've always had a weird stomach, so maybe it's just coincidence. It seems to act up the most when I'm nervous about stuff or something. Only in the morning usually though.

 

Yeah I know the feeling but I am slowly getting over it by trying to listen to what I want to do than what everyone else wants me to do. The thing u should try to do is find out the cause and well change it that is if u can

 

I am depressed and I was depressed but got better last year too. I cant use medication, or rather I won't because when I tried it last year it made me feel worse. In about a week, I'm going to start seeing a therapist who has experience helping people with gay/lesbian issues So I hope that will help a lot; when I went to therapists in the past, I ignored my confusion about my sexuality and didnt want to talk about it becasue I thought talking about it would make it true. Now I've accepted that I'm gay and I've come out to my best friend, her mom, my mom and my older sister. All have been supportive, but I feel like I need something else. I need someone I can talk to who can understand how I feel, but I dont actually know any gay people IRL. People here are really nice, but an internet friendship inst nearly as good as an in-person one. I also feel really lonely becuase I see people getting married and going out with their boyfriends or girlfriends and I know that I can't have that for a while

 

A bit late to this party, but I'll chime in anyway.

>>>Looking back, I can only think of one thing in my life that would have caused this depression, and that would be the fact that I am gay, and the related issues that I have had to deal with.

I've been in two major depressions in my life. One was in 1994, the other was this year. You know what caused them?

Nothing.

Well, I'm sure there was SOMETHING going on. A chemical imbalance, most likely. But each time, I made the same mistake you did. I assumed that I was depressed because of something in my life. My work, my social life, my thoughts about the world, whatever. But it wasn't. My brain was just messed up. And I'm thinking perhaps you're in the same situation. If there's no obvious cause to why you're depressed, your brain's chemistry just might be a bit out of whack. It happens.

Do give a second thought to medication. I went through the depression of 1994 without medication, and the one this year with. This one went a LOT smoother. And the medication wasn't heavy-duty. I didn't feel like a zombie, or feel like "not me". It just enabled me to move my brain away from depressive thoughts again. I did a few side effects, but they were quite mild. I got a bit of tinnitus (ringing) in my right ear for about two minutes about half an hour after I took the pill, and for the first two or three weeks, I felt a bit "vague" for about an hour when the pill kicked in. (You know how you feel when you take cough syrup? A bit like that.) But that was it. It took about a week for the medication to have some effect, since it was quite mild. But within two weeks, I was already certainly much better. I still had depressing thoughts, but they weren't constant. I could think about other things, and get stuff done without having to force myself to put one foot in front of the other.

It may be you don't need medication, and therapy will be all you need. If so, great. But do remain open to the possibility that it's a chemical imbalance, because if it is, then therapy won't be able to do much but help you "hang on" until your brain rights itself.

Lex

 

I'm the same way. It used to be much worse in high school, but in college it's subsided for the most part.

 

Bryan, I experienced significant depression after my marriage fell apart and I was finally dealing with being gay. Therapy helped me greatly. My sexuality was one of the causes of my depression but it was not the only one. I am now depression free and have been for a long time now. While I considered medication, I ultimately opted to go solely with talk therapy, which was quite successful. I am glad to hear you are seeking help. While you may not be able to see it now, with therapy, these feelings will go away and you should be able to live a happy life.

 

I think I know how you feel. I was depressed off and on for 3 or 4 years. The only difference is that I lost an unhealthy amount of weight. The way I eventually got over it was by changing my entire outlook on life. That didn't mean I came out or anything, but I started taking things less seriously in a way. I dunno if this is any good to you, but......

Anyway, excercise is supposed to help.

 

I've been anti-depressent free for a year now, Depression really destroyed my life 2 years ago...Talk to someone, a psychologist preferably, they really help sort things out and get you out. My severe weight loss, loss of appetite, and insomnia really destroyed my habits and mood. Anti-depressants really help in bringing those things back, see someone. While on the anti-depressants I found jogging with really good music or driving around for an hour by myself helped me dissect the things of my day, Find something you love or loved before or during your depression to help you bring yourself and focus as well. Good Luck and Take care of yourself

 

I'm with you, I haven't got all the signs, but I am depressed either way, and its also about me being gay.
Hope things turn round soon