Good morning. :***: Lately, I realised im quit quiet in bed. I dont say bad worlds or makre noises. I never realised this before, but i see a lot of guys loves to say dirty things. The main problem is I dont know how to do this. I wish i could it, but without being too sluty or too prude. Can someone give advices? I really think is a turn on thing. Cheers Sorry for the grammar (cellphone).***
Hmm, porn seems to teach that saying dirty words during sex should be a turn on. For some, maybe that's the case, for others, not necessarily. Do not feel concerned if it is something that does not come naturally to you. There are all types of ways to arouse your partner, dirty talk is only one small way. If someone starts to talk to me in such a way, I actually start to laugh and it is more of a mood killer
I think moaning is enough. IMO talking while having sex kinda ruins the moment. Just relax and be yourself.
I find being vocal during sex to be extremely arousing. I mean, my guy better be moaning at the least, if not screaming.. cuz thats how I know I'm doing my job well ^_^ Anything more is just a bonus, sexy dialogue adds to the experience and makes a guy more stylish, but it's not prerequisite by any means. But if you're silent the whole time I'm just gonna assume you arent into it and leave.
It depends on how comfortable you are doing it. It does acknowledge that you are enjoying yourself during sex, which could really turn your partner on. So if you want to incorporate that into your sex life then I suggest really focusing on the pleasure you get from sex. If it feels exceptionally good, let out a moan. You may find that it turns you on even more. Just practice that during your next sexual encounter. But if you find it uncomfortable or too forced on your part, then don't do it. Everyone has a preference. Your main focus is to enjoy sex.
Dirty talk is a very tricky thing. It can turn on fire everything or it can mess with everything: the word can be too rude or can transform the guy in a commentator. I´m reading on internet about it, but still is very generic. I´m trying to understand the balance of the thing: which words, phrases, when. I don´t want to sound fake.
Dirty talk is completely up to the individual. Some people are quiet, and I'm one of them. I occasionally grunt, swear, make small noises, or give brief feedback/instructions. My husband is extremely, vocal, however, and he moans and curses and begs. X) I love it all. I find that the word "fuck" gets thrown around a lot by both of us.
I tend to be more silence. Even though I really enjoy being on the receiving end of the dirty talk, I do feel a bit embarrassed when doing it myself. My advice is to just do what feels natural. If you want to be more vocal, open your mouth or allow yourself to breathe more heavily.
Imo, as long as I can see you're enjoying yourself (and me), it doesn't matter how much sound you make or what you say. * * Well, don't start talking about my parents having sex, that would be a complete turn off of course.
I can only speak for me, but an unexpected gasp, moan or "oh god" is FAR hotter to me than any dirty talk a guy can say. Lex
It really really depends on who I'm having sex with, although I usually find it hilarious or deeply unarousing. I usually work off the principle: would I want someone to do this to me or are they directly asking for this? If the answer is yes to either or both, then I'd do it like how I like it done. If not, I usually steer clear.
Try saying random words like "banana" or "telephone" and see if it is a turn on lol. Honestly I don't think swearing & cussing makes the experience more pleasurable. But then again, that's my opinion.
I guess if it were a random fling, it's hot. But if I were partnered, I'd much prefer to gaze in my man's eyes and make him feel my love and energy. Personally I don't think I can say nasty things to a man I love.
Same here. I recall someone calling me a "son of a bitch" in the heat of passion. I went from 60 to 0 in two seconds. I'm not a prude, but certain words are loaded. So I find myself in the less is more category.
