Who was your first time with and how was it?

They say (whoever 'they' are) that you never forget your first time. But it is so long ago, I really had to think back! Of course, 'first sexual experience' as a bit ambiguous.

None of your poll questions really fit for an answer. It was with a good University friend, we were both quite drunk at a party. He has subsequently been married twice (to women), it has never happened again between us, we are still good friends, and have only mentioned the subject once, when we were both quite drunk (again)!

 

My first gay kiss was a friend when we got really drunk & ended up coming out to each other. First time was, like Camel, was a university friend who eventually became my first bf.

 

I just put "someone I knew but not intimately" as I experimented with some friends a bit when I was younger.

 

I've never had actual intercourse with a guy, but my first sexual experience was with a guy I was in a relationship with. It ended with him getting his rocks off. Me, not so much, but I didn't really care. We fooled around a lot in that relationship, but I was never fully comfortable with him, sexually, and mostly felt like I "owed it" to him because we were together. (Which, by the way, is a terrible reason to do anything, but hey, young and stupid)

I was not that anxious about "saving myself" or having my first time "mean" anything, so it wasn't a difficult decision to make and I don't feel like I lost anything. I learned from it -- and I don't just mean sexually, either.

My advice to you, method, is try not to stress it. Much easier said than done, and I don't even take my own advice, but it is what it is. The right time to do it is when you want to. It doesn't have to be someone you're in a relationship with. Ideally, though, it should be someone you trust (at least someone you trust not to murder you in the backroom), just so your first time isn't completely shitty and dangerous. And try not to have too high expectations. Yeah, sex can be great. Even first times can be great. But they can also be not-so-great. Mostly, it'll get better.

 

I was with someone I was seriously considering marrying, actually... He really did his best to set the mood and get a nice hotel room and prepare everything and~~~ it was really amazing <3 I'm glad I was able to be with someone who understood how important my virginity was to me (he was super experienced, lol) and I have no regrets~ ^.^ I also made a really close friend that night because a girl I had just met and I both kind of met walking home from both of our first experiences and bonded over that XD;;;;;;;

 

I met a guy on a friday night. He was my age (16) and really smart. Next week I went to his house and made out. Big mistake. At least it made me realized how much I love gurls.

 

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My first time was being raped by a guy who "took me in" after my parents threw me out for being gay. It wasn't the last time he did it, either.

And the police just told me men don't get raped, man up and get over it.

 

In a college locker room with this guy who showered at the same time I did.

He spent a week or two coming on to me before I figured out what he was doing. Didn't think about it much when I finally took him up on it.

Never did learn his name, although we hooked up several times after that. So it was fun enough to keep doing it.

Todd

 

Sadly I don't find that as shocking as it should be. It was all too common once, and still is in some places. I mean both vulnerable young gay men being preyed on by older men, and the attitude of the police.

 

My first time, if you will, was extremely spontaneous, mildly pleasurable, and way too early ^^