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Gay Sex Question

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by AlinOR2015, May 5, 2015.

  1. AlinOR2015

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    Newly out guy.
    First time trying to top a dude after plenty of preparation.
    I had heard that the partner bottoming would be hurt
    but the pressure against the tip of cock was painful
    Any advice dudes?
     
  2. guitar

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    That's not really true at all. Bottoming can be painful,it really depends on both people - there are a lot of variables including penis size, tightness, if the bottom has any anal health issues... A few tips: Make sure you use lots of lube & reapply. Start slow, especially at the start so the bottoming partner can get used to the feeling. Maybe begin with fingers, toys, or a few dozen slow thrusts. Lastly, but most importantly, use a condom.
     
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    The key is to get the bottom to be completely relaxed before penetrating. As guitar says, use lots of lube and play with his ass quite a bit before inserting. Massage your head around his ass rubbing it in circles, carefully use your finger to play with it as well going slowly while it is lubricated. It might take a minute, it might take ten minutes. Don't rush it.
     
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    Wait, what was painful. You were in pain or your partner?

    The only thing I would add would be that if your partner hasn't bottomed much then it takes a bit of practice to be able to relax. Changing positions and allowing him to explore himself with either toys or fingers might help.

    But yeah, bottoming should NOT be painful. Maybe a little uncomfortable, but if it hurts then stop and go back to prepping.
     
  5. AlinOR2015

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    SorryI was not clear
    I (who wanted to penetrate) was in pain -- the pressure against the penis tip was painful
     
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    Sounds like he was not relaxed and you were trying to force penetrating your partner. Take steps to help him relax as I reflected previously.
     
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    or, are you sure that your penis doesn't have a cut or infection? or bruise? Just checkin'