Hey guys I'm facing a problem - unable to get aroused by women or enjoy having sex with them. I used to get horny and was able to get turned on by girls I saw or porn but now nothing. I did supress my sexuality for about 3 years denying the fact I was a lesbian and telling myself not to like girls. In high school I got made fun of for my sexuality and in college as well. i had sex w a 30 y.o woman my first time (I'm 21) but I didn't really enjoy it bc I didn't know her. I actually knew her for a day. I thought she was beautiful but I couldn't cum or orgasm and I was just like " okay this is fun....errr" Then I had sex w a girl my age but again I couldn't really enjoy as much as I wanted to it and she definitely liked it more than me. Also I didn't know her well, about a day too. She tried to have sex w me again the next morning but I was sober and couldn't.( I just wanted to leave sooo bad and I did) But when I'm drunk I want it,maybe bc I'm not scared then. How do I get over this? Is there something wrong with my sex drive ?? Both of these girls were drunk encounters I've never done it sober but I know I'm a lesbian. Any help is appreciated.
It sounds like a sex drive thing. If you've been put on medicine recently it might be that. Or estrogen changes, or stress.
Maybe it would be better with someone you know and have an emotional connection with? Someone you're more comfortable with? You could try focusing on dating and leaving sex for someone that you really want to have sex with.
You said you were drunk, so that's a big thing too. it's harder to reach orgasm this way. Also, doing it with someone you like is way better. so maybe try to connect with a girl before you have sex...
