Last year I met up with a guy who topped me and came, and recently met up with a guy who came through grinding (which is AWESOME). But the only way I can ejaculate is through masturbation. So I really wonder what it's like (or if it's even possible for me) to cum without masturbating. It's really frustrating because as much as I love intimacy, the only way for me to cum is beating it off myself. I will mention that I've watched a lot of porn and I'm guessing it might have something to do with this. Would it be possible for porn to do this to me?
If you watch a a lot of porn, there is a risk you have trained yourself to ejaculate only while masturbating. Try taking a break from Porn. If you need to relieve yourself, try using fantasies and your mind rather than a video. Do that for a bit and see how you progress.
I am sort of like this. I don't think it's too bad. I can not finish unless my *insert word* is rubbed by me or my girlfriend. I understand and it's not a bad thing. Maybe this will change? You'd never know.
It could be an issue of having trained yourself to only ejaculate via masturbation or of being nervous or tense when with someone else. You could try being very relaxed with a guy, taking things slow, and/or maybe investing in a toy or two, either to see if you can make yourself orgasm without directly masturbating yourself or letting your partner use the toy on you. It may also be that it just takes you a long time to finish with a partner. Alternatively, you may treat sex as a trip to be enjoyed and then finish yourself off while your partner assists, offers encouragement, or just holds you and such. Todd
