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First time having sex

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by laloski, Oct 20, 2015.

  1. laloski

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    My boyfriend and I have decided that we are ready to have sex in our relationship. I've never had gay sex so I don't really know what to expect and how to prepare. Porn doesn't help because all of that is really unrealistic. Can anyone give me some advice on all of this? I'm excited but also very nervous.
     
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    Condoms. Lube. Relax. Have fun.
     
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    Its all natural don't think about just stay safe and do what feels good you both will get to know each other
     
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    Lots of lube. Condoms are a must. You might want to buy a butt plug or anal dildo to get used to the sensation of bottoming (assuming you are in that position).

    The biggest thing is to RELAX. Whether topping or bottoming. Sex would be relaxing and feel good. Your first time you're going to be nervous and nerves can overtake you. Repeat the words "relax, breathe, relax."
     
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    Have you guys done anything sexual yet? Anything except penetrative sex?

    It might be better to start off slow at first. A lot of petting, kissing, etc. before you decide to do penetration. If the mood goes in that direction, great, but sex doesn't always have to include anal the first time around.

    I only say this because a lot of people are nervous their first time and they can't seem to relax to allow anal to happen. It's OK if it doesn't. It's a process.

    Have fun! :wink:
     
    #5 Steve FS, Oct 22, 2015
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