This is embarassing but...

Hello dylanisawesome19! :icon_bigg

You state "I'm not really feeling much about the soon to be break up either.", yet your mood says depressed. I guess it doesn't have much to do with the breakup then? I'm asking to see whether it bothers you more than you admit right here.

I'm sorry you're heading towards a breakup. You state you don't get turned on by her in bed, something that can have several different causes. One of them might be that you have performance anxiety (it's relatively common so I just drop the word here). I can't tell why you have performance problems, as there's not sufficient information for me to do so, nor do I have enough expertise on this matter.

Have you had these problems for some time? Did they just start appearing?


Take care,

Quem

 

It sounds like its because you're very stressed out at the moment.

I dont know how serious you are with your current girlfriend but if you do want to stay with her then maybe you should confide in her as you are confiding in this forum (or maybe just tell her about the forum so she can see for herself what your concerns are).
I dont know if its just me but I always find being honest and open a whole lot less stressful than keeping things to myself.

When sex is stressing you out, maybe its time to stop having sex for a little bit? OR find a way to make the sex you do have less stressful... again, maybe just tell her about how you feel and then maybe that'll remove her expectation that you're going to have frequent sex in the coming weeks or months or years. It's better she knows, isn't it?

Then again, you may feel that none of this is worth it and maybe having a girlfriend in your life right now is something which may just be adding to your already full schedule or stress levels? Maybe, for now, it'd be better if you took a break? I dont know if this is the case but if you're just sitting around waiting for it to end then why not end it right now?

 

Would you like to elaborate on why you feel that you may be not be straight? Is it only because you have trouble in bed with women or are there any wider issues you'd care to share with us here?
How sure are you?

 

and that's totally okay. a lot of us on EC have been there.

you've done nothing wrong. not to anyone, not to your girlfriend.

we're hear if you want to talk.

 

Ah, I feel like I should move our conversation here.

I'd like to know more about your thoughts on your orientation, too.

 

Oh, I see what you mean. I know the feeling, and it can be scary, but you're doing a good thing talking to us about this. You might just need to get it all out so you can sort through your thoughts later.

 

Just want to say congrats for finally coming out to yourself. It's the first step in a long road. Its a big thing to know that your life is going to be different from what everyone around you has always told you it would be.

You probably dont know yet and wont know for a while but do you think you are 100% gay or...?
I remember for a long time after I came out as not-straight I thought I was a pansexual. Took me a few extra months to realise I was gay.

 

I agree with Robert.

I had a similar experience, except I thought I was bisexual. Turns out I was just gay.

Don't worry about having to figure yourself out so suddenly. It'll take a little bit and that's ok. What's important is that you got the whole process started

 

Are you drinking right now?

 

Ah, sorry, haha. I just thought that if you were drinking, then maybe we should wait until you're completely sober to talk about this, but you're not so it's ok.

Just take a deep breath. You're doing well, Dylan. You got this.

Tell us more about your experiences. Are you completely sure that you're gay?

And about your brother - this could be a way for you both to relate. If I was having a hard time with my sexuality and I found out that my bigger brother was gay too, I would feel relieved. I wouldn't be alone. You don't have to feel embarrassed or ashamed.

At the same time, come out at your own time. Let these feelings settle a little bit and see if you still feel the same way after a while.

 

Why would you have to?