Certain... Insecurities

When it all comes down to it, it's not a big deal. Bigger penises = fun to look at, but can be very problematic. I'm not sure who started the whole deal with penis size and everything, but it really doesn't matter.

 

im not a dude but from what all of my friends tell me it doesnt matter

 

You know, one of my good friends is a med student and every time this conversation comes up she gets furious. According to her, "vaginas are only an average of three inches long. Anything too big is just over stretching the girl and can cause things like shock and tearing."

Realistically speaking, if you encounter someone who cares about size, it's because they are a foul little person and you don't need that kind of negativity in your life. Your fine the way you are, so don't worry about it.

However, I will acknowledge that we are our own biggest critics and will feel self conscious. Every guy I've ever known has been self conscious, just like every girl. It's a normal thing. Don't worry about it. Find someone who loves you for you, and not your penis and you'll be fine.

 

The bigger ones are nicer to look at but more difficult to handle. Only a small percentage of guys are going to have a serious issue with a smaller one, and they can go--literally and figuratively--fuck themselves

 

Don't let this get in the way of your learning. There are things that are easier with guys who are smaller. Most importantly, you'll learn that any guy worth your time won't care.

 

At the end of the day, some people will react negatively towards your penis size, some wont care and some will find it a turn on.

Maybe you should just be upfront about your penis size? Then you dont have to waste your time showing them your penis before they reject you.

I dont know for 100% sure but it always has seemed to me that penis size is a bigger issue in the straight world than the gay world.

Also, seeing as you started puberty really late, it is possible that you are still developing.

 

A friend of mine said this while being mocked by girls about his penis size:

"It's not about the size, it's about the performance. You're judging my size because you have seen it, why dont you judge my performance later?"

And they all shut up.


Aaand I dont really relate to it because I have never been in a conversation about penises.

 

Honestly, I don't care about size, and most guys do not. I want a guy who isn't a flake most of all. There are plenty of things more important than penis size. There are plenty of other "skills" in the bedroom that can be developed and mastered that can make you very endearing to a partner.

Knowing how you gain pleasure from your body and what turns you on is far more valuable than anything in the long run.

 

Small is a relative term. My best friend from high school once told me she had a one-night stand with a guy who was embarrassed about his dick because it was only 7 inches. You see, porn had convinced him that the average size is 10 inches. (The real average is 5.19")

Honestly, I had that same anxiety myself when I was younger, and upon doing the research, I discovered I'm actually bigger than average. Now my size isn't incredibly impressive, but it goes to show you that a "small penis" is a very subjective term. And at the end of the day, it's about how you use it. As Cee Lo Green once sang, "I'm sorry I can't afford a Ferarri, but that don't mean I can't get you there"

 

So, let's think this thru...

If you're kissing/cuddling, the size of your penis doesn't matter.

If you're engaging in body contact/frottage, the size of your penis doesn't matter.

If you're engaging in mutual masturbation, the size of your penis doesn't matter as long as your partner can hold you in a way you find pleasurable.

If you're giving a blowjob, the size of your penis doesn't matter.

If you're getting a blowjob, the size of your penis doesn't matter.

If you're bottoming, the size of your penis doesn't matter.

If you're topping, the size of your penis doesn't matter (within fairly broad limits, and if you fall outside those limits, there are always toys - and you do can stuff with a toy and a bit of imagination that even most really endowed guys can't (not unless they are extremely flexible anyway)

Are we seeing a pattern here yet?

Coming at this from another direction:

I've been with guys who were your size, or a bit smaller, and had an awesome time. I've been with a guy who was twice your size, and had a time that was..meh..at best.
Three guesses which guys I kept coming back to (first two don't count)

As others have already said, a big dick can be visually stimulating. But at the end of the day, that novelty value fades. What lasts for the long haul is being a caring and considerate lover who pays attention and enjoys giving his partner pleasure as much as he enjoys receiving it (never underestimate the power of reciprocation). Extend those same qualities of caring and consideration beyond the bedroom (maybe with a dash of humor and charm for spice) and you become someone who's dance card can be quite consistently full, if that's what you want.

Hope this helps,

Todd

 

From what I've heard, it's more about how you use it rather than the size.

 

Those of us with life experience know that it shouldn't be the size, but the PERSON its attached to. Embrace it! What I look for in a guy is not the size of his dick, but the size of his heart, his depth of character, and his capacity for empathy,

 

Those of us without life experience think the same thing. But seriously like everyone else has said, big ones are fun to look at but let's say difficult to maneuver. Also I guess you could say I'm a novice when it comes to being with guys so frankly I'd prefer someone on the small to average side of the spectrum. Personally I don't want my first time to be with someone that's huge down there.

Not to sound like I'm hitting on you or anything. Just stating my opinion that for my first time, I'd prefer someone that's not like huge or whatever. I should shut up So in short, size doesn't matter. Or it does but not the way you think Ok rant over xD