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Let's talk masturbation!

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by victoriangirl, Nov 20, 2015.

  1. victoriangirl

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    Hi,

    Why do so many people have be so shy about this topic? Come on, the more we talk about it, the more normal it will become and the more people will be happy. We all know how aggressive and unhappy people can become if they do not have a healthy and happy sex life - and often it is seen as 'you need to have a partner, to be healthy in that department'. Such b.s. if you ask me.

    You can only be happy with someone else, if you are happy on your own.

    Dildos, vibrators, sex toys...let's talk about them.

    What do you use? when? how often? where?

    I'd start :slight_smile:
    I am female by the way :slight_smile:)))

    - I have a basic dildo, but I just read about this new amazing vibrator on Indiegogo. It is called the Tantus Rumble and I hope to get my hands on that one!!! I also saw that it is gay men friendly as well!!!

    - when? whenever I feel bored, whenever I am alone in the house, whenever I am down...

    - how often? My recipe in my life is - at least 3 times a week

    - where? at home, in bed...the boring stuff :slight_smile:))) But fun in the end hahahahaa(!)
     
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    What do you use?
    Hand.

    When?
    When I'm bored, which is quite often nowadays.

    How often?
    Depends. 2-3 times a a day usually. Have been up to 6 times on a marathon run lol

    Where? On my bed.
     
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    I cannot get off with masterbation. I've never tried a vibrator, so my girlfriend bought me one for Christmas. She's going to take my virginity with a strapon before I use it though. Hopefully a vibrator works, because simple hand masterbation does absolutely nothing for me.
     
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    I just use my hands and stuffs because i don't have anything else. I usually do once a day, maybe more or less depending. I just do it in the personal space of my bedroom.
     
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    I have a couple of prostate vibrates ,well they used to vibrate !!:bang::bang:

    I still use them as I like having something in my bum when I'm masturbating

    also have a sleeve toy thing that I slide my penis in, (hope that's not too graphic?)

    and on my stomach, gives me a nice orgasm and I do that once a day these days,
    I still can masturbate via hand if I want to though...

    trying not to feel too ashamed afterwards some times.... anyways thats my way
     
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    What do you use?: Hands only.

    When: Early mornings or late nights (why? Beacuse I love mornings and a nice beginning to the day :wink: (!) )

    How often: Like 3-4 times a week.

    Where: In the shower or in bed.
     
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    I use my hands, and never tried dildos. I like doing it when I am alone, and most of the time I do it 1-3x a week. Where? <giggles>
     
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    I have a couple of sleeves that I use, and I rarely just jerk off anymore. Now that we've had a house full of people for two going on three months, I generally do it at night after everyone's gone to bed, and I pretty much only masturbate in bed. I'll masturbate usually right around once a day, sometimes twice. No more than three times in one day.
     
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    Im only able to go about it the old fashioned way. I dont have any accessories, even though id really like to have a few. I guilty of doing it more than 2 or 3 times a day, however i dont let it run my life. I usually do it in my bedroom or the shower.
     
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    Hmm... well, might as well talk about it. You're right - there's nothing to be ashamed of.

    I use my hands and nothing else. The frequency can be anywhere from 3 times a day to once a month, depending on how busy I am. I masturbate usually because I've built up a lot of sexual energy and I need release; I hardly ever do it because I'm bored. I used to do that before as a teenager, but bored masturbation = half-ass ejaculation. It just isn't as powerful or nice feeling.

    Where do I masturbate? My room or the bathroom.

    I've actually always been curious on anal sex, but I've never engaged in it with another person. I did try doing anal masturbation once, and it did not feel pleasurable at all. I was all the way up in there and it just felt like I had to use the bathroom, so I stopped. I envy those that are able to feel explosive pleasure from receiving anal. I don't think I ever will :/
     
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    We shouldn't be embarrassed about discussing the subject. It's widely known that masturbating can relieve stress and tension, so we shouldn't discourage it or feel ashamed of it. Even if you are masturbating more than once a day it's a perfectly normal and healthy thing to do.
     
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    I do it about a day myself, but try not to do it more than once a day as well simply its not as fun, I feel if I have to wait a bit, that and if I do it more than twice, it starts to hurt so not a good idea. I can leave it several days, it really just depends on my mood.
     
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    What do you use? Hand
    when? Whenever i'm bored, usually mid-day or something (i'm at my house most of the time, don't worry lol)
    how often? At least once a day if not more.
    where? My room, but if i'm desperate i'll find a way to make it work almost anywhere.
     
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    What i use: hands but i want a vibrator
    When: usually at night
    How often: at least once a day
    Where: in my bed or in the shower, did it once at school too

    And i have never, not even once, felt ashamed. The way is see it is that if we weren't meant to masturbate, our arms wouldn't be able to reach that far down.
     
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    What do you use?

    Hands generally (right if I just want to get off and get it over with, left if I'm edging).

    Toys - Have a fleshlight that I use occasionally, and recently purchased a couple of prostate stimulators that we haven't had a chance to try out yet.

    Lubes - If there's time and inclination. Wet, Fusion Bodyglide, or Albolene, depending on time and circumstances.

    Props - Does a full length mirror count?:wink:

    when?

    Usually in the morning after working out. Sometimes in the evening after going to bed. Sometimes in the afternoon or early evening - generally edging if doing it at these times.

    how often?

    Varies from once a day to once every 2-3 days. My sex drive (and frequency) tends to decrease in cold weather or when I'm having trouble sleeping. Increase when it's warm and I'm well rested. Edging is less frequent - depends on when I'm in the mood and have several hours of alone time to play in. Once in a great while may increase to multiple times in one day, although that's never happened often, even when I was much younger.

    where?

    Bedroom mostly. Sometimes the bathroom, even more rarely in the shower. Sometimes in the living room.

    Todd
     
  16. waitwhat

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    What do I use?
    Hand

    When?
    Bored, cramps, horny

    How often?
    At least four times a week, but sometimes more.

    Where?
    On my bed.
     
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    What do you use?
    Fingers! (Gotta love lesbians)

    When?
    Whenever I feel the need.

    How often?
    It very much depends. Some weeks not at all, others all the time.

    Where?
    Mainly in my room, but I can get creative :wink:
     
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    Hand, Fleshlight, Aneros. I really prefer the Fleshlight, the hand I use when I'm too lazy to clean my toy. The Aneros gives me mindblowing orgasms, I use that once every week or so. The frequency chances from six times a day and up to once or twice a week.
     
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    What do you use?: Hands only.

    When: Before bed

    How often: Like 4-7 times a week.

    Where: My bed.
     
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    I rarely do it to be honest as I don't find masturbation enjoyable...Maybe also because I don't like my current body that I am stuck in.
    The only times I enjoy it is if someone is doing it FOR me.
    I own a dildo, never really gets used.