I just found out that I have stage 3 cancer in my Fallopian tubes, and the only way to remove it is to undergo a full abdominal hysterectomy (Removal of my uterus, cervix, fallopian tubes, etc.) I'm so scared, and my friends and family are all on the other side of the world. How do I even break the news to them?
Im sorry to hear about you're cancer. I don't know if I can give much help but I can try... There isn't any good way to tell some about something like that you just have to. I think you should call them maybe even a video chat and just tell them you have something serious to talk to them about and it has to do with you're health and then proceed to tell them whats going on and the procedure for it. Again I'm sorry to hear about this I hope you get better. I'll pray for you.
Hey, I´m sorry to hear that too. At this hardship in your life, you are going to need all the support that you can get. It is essential to tell your family and friends and perhaps even rejoin them (perhaps someone could move close to you? or you could go back if you want to?) It really doesn´t matter how you will tell them. Just call them and calmly explain the situation. Follow your doctors´ advice, do your treatment, be with good friends to support you and have faith. Get well, soon! (*hug*) ---------- Post added 2nd Dec 2015 at 03:18 AM ---------- Edited to add: My dear Anna, Do not forget to remain optimistic. I can tell you by experience from my environment that half the treatment is being positive and having will and determination to battle and win. Do not underestimate the power of the mind. (hugs)
Thank you both, I'm trying my best to stay positive, and I don't plan on giving up. I WILL survive this, I believe that in my heart. Still, it's pretty scary. Thank you both again!
I have had UC for years and I still haven't told anyone from my friends or family. When it kills me, or I kill myself when it becomes too much to bear, they will find out. But that's me. If you have a good relationship with your parents and friends you should tell someone. Given the diagnosis I assume you will have the surgery in Sweden, if that's the case you will need someone to help you during your recovery. There is no good way of breaking the news to them. But once they know, you won't be forced to go through the whole process by yourself.
Your title says it well, it is indeed another coming out, or as one commentator has called it: "just another difficult conversation". Do not add to your fears by being afraid to tell the only people who will be most available to see you through, and support you in this ordeal. It's good to be positive, but don't deny your fear, it is very important that you feel this and that you communicate it to your loved ones, they need to know, and the sooner the better. Get on Skype and tell them in the first sentence, don't hesitate, then you can deal with the questions and the emotions that will inevitably follow. I certainly wish you well, it seems that this radical surgery may be able to get you through this, do not hesitate to call upon those who should be there to help you, that is what family is for.
I just saw this now, and I am so sorry to hear of your diagnosis Lunarchy. You will need lots of support, so let your friends and family know ASAP. Talk about it here too if it helps. Your EC family cares about you, and you will have a whole team of health specialists battling this with you as well.
I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis. It really is something that is hard to tell people about. I had to tell many people about my mother's diganosis. It's a hard topic, but as you tell more people you learn how to approach the conversation better. There will be a lot of emotion, but I'm sure that you felt a lot when you first heard the diagnosis as well. It's important that you have people that you can talk to, even if they are halfway around the world.
I would tell who ever you need to directly...just tell them. I'm sure most of them will want to help support you in anyway they can....and they will be so glad you told them. People want to know so they can help....even if its just emotional support.
When my mum had breast cancer, she made a special mothers day trip to see me and my sister at university. She sat me down and told me. I was in shock for months until it hit me properly. Humans seem incredibly fragile at times, but they're built out of really tough stuff... You'll get through it, you'll find a way...
I'm so sorry to hear this. Please keep us updated on how you're doing. Let your family be there for you. You need all the love and support you can get. (*hug*)
