I am not interested in having butt sex. The idea grosses me out in terms of me putting it in there, and I don't like the feeling of having stuff shoved up my butt. I've stuck some stuff up there before, and I didn't like it. So, basically would someone I was with typically respect my wish to not have butt sex? I'd be definitely down to give head and all, the idea really seriously turns me on to be honest. I'd probably be really good at it too I'd also be down with jerking each other off and stuff. I just would not have any interest in the butt sex related stuff. Would most other guys just walk out the door on me because of that or is this something that people could respect? When two men do things with one another is butt sex basically a mandatory part of the whole thing or not really? Also, is this something that should be said relatively upfront when things begin to get heated? It probably would be, because I wouldn't want somebody just sticking it in out of nowhere or anything.
It's a conversation that should occur between you and your current or future partner, and no, there's nothing wrong with that. There are many gay and bi men who do not like anal sex, and a majority of sexual encounters between MSMs only have mutual masturbation and oral sex only.
Share with your partner what it is comfortable between you. There is no magic equal. My first liked being bottom and given oral but had no interest in being top or giving oral and it didn't matter. Honestly you sound like someone to watch a movie and share a blanket with!
I was upfront about it with my partner and he was perfectly fine and respected my decision not to have anal. I know I'm female but we do it too. It was a conversation we had because it was something he had desired, but he was completely fine with me not wanting to do it and respected it. If a person doesn't respected it then they aren't worth being with, they probably just want to use you. That's my opinion.
While I certainly do know some gay/queer guys who consider anal sex to be the "gold standard" of sex, my experience has shown that it's not nearly as common as we are led to believe by media and porn. Even as someone who loves anal, more than half of my sexual encounters don't include it. Oral, hand jobs, and even frottage are much more common. And, honestly, if someone isn't willing to respect your sexual boundaries, they are not someone you want to be with anyway. There's a term for people who cross the boundaries of their sexual partners - it starts with an "R" and ends with "apists."
