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Top or Bottom

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by GayOtaku, Dec 8, 2015.

  1. GayOtaku

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    So the first question that comes to mind of people if they are 'gay' to me is if they are a 'top' or 'bottom'.

    If you could please, post which one you are with a brief explanation as to why. Thanks :slight_smile:

    So, I'm a bottom. Call me a kinky, but I LOVE the idea of being 'dominated'
     
  2. GayPugs

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    I dunno. When me and my girlfriend got together, I was the first to tell her I had a crush on her, than I was the first to ask her if I could call her my girlfriend (following in my father's footsteps) and I'll probably be the first to ask her to marry me if we stay together so I consider myself a top. I like being dominant.
     
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    Top. I'm too lazy to go over the overly time consuming preparations required to be bottom. And I'd rather die than have my partner's member stained in my excrement. Perhaps I may give bottoming a shot one day, but I'll need a lot of time to make sure nothing shameful happens.
     
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    neither! I have no desire to be dominated or to dominate! I prefer more equal sensual stuff
     
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    I consider myself versatile, but not at the same time.

    For example I may meet a guy and I'm attracted to him because he's more feminine and I want to top him. In that relationship I'll always be a top.

    But I may meet a guy who fits MY definition of a top... bigger, rugged, more dominating than me. In those cases I want to be his bottom.
     
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    Definitely a bottom. I'm the more submissive type and love the feeling of being, as you said, dominated :lol:

    ---------- Post added 9th Dec 2015 at 07:46 PM ----------

    Bottom. I'm definitely the more submissive type and I love the feeling of being, as you said, dominated :lol:
     
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    I'm sometimes a bottom when it comes to the flirting and getting to know someone in a relationship I'm a top for some reason I don't like making the first move but when in it I feel more confident
     
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    I haven't done either, so I'm not really sure.
     
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    I'm versatile.

    If a straight person asks me though, I start asking them questions about their sex life :slight_smile:
     
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    I have never had any encounters with that. So, I do not have an answer. But I would think I would be a top. Just because I hear you don't have to do much just make sure your partner has cleaned up. I would not mind trying to bottom as well just to know how it feels.
     
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    I'm a bottom. I am very submissive, but a shy yet sassy submissive. My girlfriend would never let anyone dominate her. And I love it!

    I am also submissive out of bed and around most people. I'm a bit of a pushover and I let people boss me around (especially my twin sister).

    Sometimes I hate it, but it's who I am, even if I get walked on.

    Most would probably think it's a confidence issue, but it's not. My confidence is average. I guess I'm just afraid of hurting someone's feelings or making someone mad. Though, everyone has a limit. So when someone crosses that line, things can get scary.
     
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    I dont really know it yet... But considering my sexual fantasies, I think I am versatile. When my partner is as big as or bigger than me (body type/height), I tend to like being bottomed but when he is smaller, I like being top.
     
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    If I was to ever have sex with a guy I'd for sure prefer to be the bottom. Have always been the masculine top due to only ever being with girls, so it just feels right that a new experience should entail a totally new role.

    Plus the fact I have absolutely no interest in topping a guy. Could only ever get pleasure from being dom with a girl. Being totally sub for a guy, however, greatly turns me on, even if it just ends up being a one time thing.
     
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    I've only known I'm gay for a few months, but I've been writing erotic fiction with online partners for years. I tend towards the subbie side more often than not, but I can be a top anytime. So I'm more of a switch that leans heavily towards bottom. :3
     
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    Bottom, i just love the feeling of my partner hot body pressing against me and the feeling of being dominated.
     
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    I am bottom because the same sentiments but I just can't handle the PAIN! All my sexual partners doesn't know how to "prepare" me so I ended up resenting anal.