Hello all, I think this is my first time actually posting on this site. I'm a bisexual woman who's a little shy and because of this I have a hard time meeting other women. I have had a lot of crushes that went nowhere. I feel like I'm way past the point where I should have at least had a kiss, but I haven't had even that. (I won't say my age on here for safety reasons.) I know someone posted a great guide on here about how to meet people in the lgbt community and when to properly ask someone if they're gay. I guess it's just a matter of building up some confidence and going out there to join a club. But anyways. I have wanted a hook up very badly for a long time now. I am not sure what to do. I want to wait for someone special but it just feels like I'll never find that someone. I have tried, I've even braved up and asked others out, and of course I was a good sport about it when it didn't work out (which is always). I've even thought about hiring an escort. Would that be a good idea for someone like me? What should I do? :bang::bang::bang:
You can certainly hire an escort if that's something you feel comfortable with and decide you want to do. Be cautious though, as it is not legal to do so in all areas. For a more legal and certainly cheaper option, have you tried hook-up/dating apps like ***** or *******? You can put in your profile that you're looking for a hook-up and what sort of things you want to do. Then just start messaging anyone who looks interesting to you! You will probably get a fair amount of rejection, mostly in the form of ignored messages, but if you are prepared for that and know it comes with the medium (it's not personal!), then it's not bad. Other than that, if you're more looking for that "someone special" try getting involved in any community group that interests you. Community theatre and music groups, knitting groups, and dragon boat racing are where I see a lot of single queer women in my city. You can also try volunteering at a local gay rights organization. Our LGBT center is always looking for volunteers to help with events or phone banking for donations - I know several folks who have made friends and gotten dates this way!
Hey what about a dating app? That gives you the option of different settings or chatting to different people who are looking for different things and seeing how you feel about them when you are talking to the people. Don't give up it can be difficult when you are shy but there is someone special out there for you.
