Being a gay chub.

I think for the simple sake of your health, putting on extra weight would not be the best idea.

 

It's not what is on the outside, but truly what is on the inside. Take care of your vital organs! Live long and prosper - J

 

Those guys have a fetish for fat. Do not put on more weight because of them since it is clear that they are not attracted to you as a person. It is unhealthy and will not your problem of finding someone who loves you.

 

Is "fat love" a normal thing? I wouldn't say it's normal, but I wouldn't say it's abnormal either -- who are we to judge? We are all attracted to different things in another person; some guys like muscle, some hate it. Some people like body hair, some hate it. I could go on, but I think you get the general idea. There is definitely a sub-culture of chubs and chasers and only you can decide if you fit in with the group now, or wish to in future.

Weight gain can be down to a number of things and we would do well to remember that. Our age, metabolism, BMI, testosterone levels and underlying health + medication issues can be a significant factor, even if we have a decent diet and regular appetite. If you are gaining weight as a result of a poor, high fat/sugar diet and limited amounts of exercise, that's obviously not a good thing for your health and you shouldn't deliberately exacerbate the problem, just to fit in.

Just because they are encouraging you to gain more weight, it doesn't mean you have to. Some people within the chub community are only slightly overweight, others more so and then there are guys at the most extreme end of the spectrum who are very obese and sometimes referred to as super chubs. You don't have to emulate the guys at the extremes though, to be part of the community.

If your intention is to lose the weight you have now and tone up, the chub/chaser community might not be a long term fit for you though. Try to think about where you want to be in a year or two with your weight and build and then make a decision about dating (or not) members of the chub/chaser community.

 

There's nothing wrong with being fat, and I don't think it's wrong to prefer fat people either. Yes, it's not brilliant to be fetishised, but there's a difference between that and just having a type. Regardless of this, you need to be comfortable with yourself, and if you want to change, change for yourself, not to conform to a particular person or group's ideal. From what you've said, you aren't comfortable with your weight, so I'd advise losing some. I know how hard it is, as I've been through that myself, but I promise you it is possible.

 

THIS. I completely agree with this. Your health is the most important thing.

 

As a small guy, I can say this, just make sure you are eating healthy and looking after your body and don't care too much about what others think about your weight. You may naturally be a larger person, if so just make sure you are looking after your own body.

 

If it could actually harm, you don't put on more weight. Stay the same. Accept yourself. Also, I kinda like chubby guys.

 

Oftentimes, the moderately chubby are more healthy than the underweight, because the underweight are often complacent in their underweightness and don't excercise, while the moderately chubby often excercise quite a bit in order to loose said chubiness. Generally speaking, the moderately overweight, though not the obese, are such because of average metabolisms and below average excercise and diet, that generally being why being overweight is considered unhealthy. However, recent studies have often found that the matter is a matter of correlation, not causation, with people of naturally low metabolisms not any more unhealthy than those with high metabolisms and the same habits. So don't feel too pressured to loose weight, is what I'm saying.

In other words, if someone wants to have you gain more weight, which would be done by not excercising and eating poorly, you shouldn't be dating that person. They're trying to comprimise your health for their gain, which is selfish, which is not conductive to a healthy relationship.

 

Obviously, don't try to gain weight if you are already heavy! That would be bad for your health, and it would make the weight even harder to get rid of. Try to be as healthy as you can, but accept yourself as you are.