I'm a feminine looking person who may possibly want to transition mtf someday. I honestly don't mind the thought of being with guys, but I to find a few things about them to be kinda gross. Firstly, I've been told that I can't be gay if I think anal might smell gross when I actually engage in it for real, despite it feeling good (I love having a dildo around to experiment with). Another thing I kind of don't like is body hair, which for some reason looks kind of odd to me. I never liked my body hair, and most of the time it just turns me off. The last thing I try to understand about my attraction guys is gay porn, which for some reason I can't seem to watch much. I know that I do find men pretty hot at times, but I can't seem to get past any of these things I mentioned. I didn't want to mention anymore things because I might sound too shallow about it. The reason I ask is because I've been told I'm not gay because of these few things, but I still find men attractive along with women as well.
There is no I can't be gay. It's not some sort of decision someone can make. Also if you think the smell of anal sex may be gross doesn't mean that you can't like guys. There's also probably guys out there who shave their hair on their body or who don't have hair really if that's what your worried about. I'd say if you're attracted to men then you may be gay. Don't listen to what other people say. If you don't think your gay then you don't think your gay. If you think your gay then you think your gay. Don't let other people's definitions define you.
Hmm...... Perhaps you're homoromantic heterosexual? It seems that you find the sexual side of a relationship with a man a turn off. Maybe you'd be more content in a strictly romantic relationship with a man? Also, have you actually been in a relationship before? As a last point, porn is never never EVER a good way to judge sexuality, EVER EVER. So scratch that off the list.
Not all gay guys are into anal. About 1 in 5 (more less) are not into anal sex to varying degrees, from only doing it if their partner wants to to absolutely refusing to do it under any circumstances. Beyond that, with proper preparation, there is little or no odor connected to anal sex, certainly no more than what you presumably encounter when using your dildo for anal play and have properly prepared so that you are clean inside. Some guys like body hair (personally I'm not sure it's possible for a guy to be too hairy for my taste), some don't care for it and shave or trim it and look for partners who also shave or trim or are naturally smooth. Porn is designed to be titillating and really isn't a good indicator. You may or may not be gay or bi, but none of the reasons you have been told you can't be gay are valid. Todd
Nope, Never been in a relationship before. I never thought about cleaning before dildo play, but I cover it with a condom because of that. The smell gets overwhelming later, even after disposing the condom. I explained it once to a friend, and was told I wasn't really into men because of that, and that I should put up with it no matter what if I liked them. I'm not sure why I don't like body hair to be honest. It seems like too much to me no matter what, which can sound mean when I try talking about it to anyone. That just makes it feel like I'm having unrealistic expectations, and have doubt about myself to liking men. I keep getting told that I'm not truly I'm not into men if I don't like body hair or gay porn, which can be confusing. I still like seeing men as attractive despite all of that.
I'm pretty much exactly like you. I've been milling over possibly being MtF trans for a few years now, and by milling over I mean I know I have always wanted to be a woman for as long as I can remember but I keep trying to convince myself i don't because I'm scared. I also hate body hair. It's disgusting honestly. I have been cursed with some pretty substantial hair on my legs and pubic area, and it is the absolute worst! I shave it sometimes, but I just don't have time to because it takes me literally hours and the hair is so thick that even when I trim it with scissors the razor can't get much of it at a time. I also don't really like body hair on other people. The unfortunate truth about anal sex is that there will be a little poop. Poop stinks, we all know this. Not liking the smell of poop is obviously completely normal. I also haven't ever been able to get into gay porn. It all seems very boring to me for some reason. For a few years I watched nearly exclusively straight porn, but in the past year I have been watching about 75% MtF trans porn. I am out as gay mostly, and that's how I currently identify. I say I'm gay because I really, really like penis lol. Vaginas have always been somewhat repulsive to me, even though I am attracted to the female body. It's quite confusing. That's why MtF porn is so attractive to me because it's something I fantasize about being, and the women have a female body (Which I honestly think is more beautiful than a male body) and a penis. It's the best of both worlds. Maybe I'm not really gay. Maybe I'm more bisexual or pansexual. I just try not to think about it too much. Maybe you're like me in some ways?
In some ways, yes. I think I'm more likely Bi instead of just gay. I still enjoy being attracted to men in general and I admire the masculinity, but I really think that I may not be super into them as I thought. Yet, I'm still attracted in a way. It was bothering me for awhile because one of the guys in the lgbt club told me I'm not gay enough. Body hair still bothers me though, and I can't get past that. I shave a lot so yeah, it can become annoying timewise. I think doing anal with a dildo is still great. Glad though to hear what you mention about poop. It's been less messy the last time I actually used it. I think there's a compromise on that bit. I'm gonna have to agree with you and everyone else on gay porn. It's not really a factor in determining my sexuality, and preferring one over the other isn't a bad thing. Honestly, I shouldn't be concerned about that just because some guy from my lgbt club telling me I'm not truly gay or bi. I really relate to you about transition. I've been concerned with it myself for a few years now, but I'm honestly scared of moving on with it too. The penis and the female body is all so alluring for me as well, but the male body can be great too.
Glad to help For me personally, I can't imagine ever having a real relationship with anyone but a man. It just doesn't seem right to me. I might be "attracted" trans women and cis women sometimes, but like I mentioned I think it's mostly the fantasy/jealousy that makes it so sexually appealing to me. There's no such thing as "not gay enough" that's silly, and that person doesn't know what they're talking about. Just curious, would you consider yourself "straight-acting"?
*shrugs* Plenty of straight women will joke about guys being pigs, but they're still into them. Same with some gay men, who say, "Why can't guys be as pleasing as women to look at?" meaning they're attracted to men, but still recognize some traits that could be considered off-putting. Not all gay men are into anal. Not all men are into hair on themselves, or others. If you're questioning your orientation, it should be based on what turns you on. Being bisexual is different from being gay, but try to remember that labels have their limits, and plenty of folks can fit under one or more.
just because you don't like something sexually doesn't mean you aren't gay or bi or whatever label. for reference, i not really into anal either, just prefer playing around and i'm pretty damn gay..
