I've been in talks wth an escort and I'm asking for advice..

Approach it the same way you would if it were a hook up or any other introduction. If they are a professional, they should be open and honest about it.

Make sure to meet in a public place first. Have a conversation and get a feel for the individual. Make sure to let someone know where you will be (I can appreciate you may not want to mention whom you are with). Ask about their safety practices, and make sure protection is used. Any signs of concerns, do not go forward with it.

 

I don't know exactly what sex you are looking for, I wrote this as though the escort were male, but it can be any gender. Sorry if I missed typos, writing on phone

Honestly, I'm still a gay Virgin and I've thought of escorts, but then I think if how shitty that guys life must be. He sells his body. I personally would rather be a Virginia than contribute to that. I've never heard of any good pimp.

I really REALLY feel for you.

Also think if how many guys the escort may have had sex with. He is putting himself at risk every day.
Even at a .1% risk of HIV per encounter, after a year out so, he's basically must likely positive and who knows of he even gets tested.

I'd avoid it. I'm in my freaking 30s and you are like ten years younger.
Your attractive, young, and you deserve to have sex with someone you like, not some guy only doing it for cash.

 

Wow, now. People who are sex workers can be the complete opposite of what you have seen in movies or what you imagine. Many people lead happy lives while they do sex work, some people do it to get themselves through college, and some people do it out of curiosity.

Yes, there are sex workers who do it out of crazy circumstances that aren't fair to any human being, but this doesn't apply to everyone and they don't deserve your disgust.

That isn't how statistics work. Just because you throw a coin in the air 2,000 times doesn't mean that the chances of you getting tails goes up every time. Same logic applies to STDs.

Also, people who do sex work will get tested regularly because 1) they want to keep doing this as long as they want/can 2) its their health. They care about it just as much as you do 3) Prep exists



Now for the OP.

Like the person above, I would treat it like a hook up. I know you said you can't meet in public first, but I would highly encourage it.

Also, tell someone where you will be. If you cant trust people, even online friends will work. Give someone the address of the hotel/place and what time you should be reporting back.

I have never been with an escort, so finding other escorts on tumblr or another forum might be your best place to get advice.

 

I guess it disturbs me that someone would feel the need to resort to seeking his body.
It's just feels, wrong to me. And very saddening.
I can try to put myself in that person's place and all I think of is depression.
Maybe I'm biased it something, let me know, but I feel strongly that sex workers are used and tossed away I can't help but feel that would hurt most people on Adobe level and harm self worth.

I'm very sorry if I am in any offending.
I am extremely against all forms of abuse and using if people. I've had that happen to me ask too often and I know the damage it causes

 

Your being extremely judgemental.

 

Just tell the escort that you want to be safe and you don't have much experience. That should be enough, they will tell you what you need to do beforehand.

 

SorryI'm really not trying to be judgemental.

I honestly feel badly for someone in that position.

If this is an OK thing then please let me know how it can be as I haven't heard of someone who escorted or was in a sex trade who wasn't effected negatively.

The thought of being a prostitute is very scary to me. I feel it's pouring yourself at unnecessary risk and fit me it would feel dehumanizing.

If there is another side, please site me. I've only ever heard of negatives.

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Am I broken?

I don't get why my feelings are soo far from everyone else's

 

Not every sex worker is unhappy with their job. That's a simple fact.

Well, talk honest to the person in question, probably it's good to wear protection, etc.