I had just gotten out of a relationship three months ago, and ever since I haven't been able to have proper sex. The sex I have sucks and almost always don't enjoy it, and I don't know why. I just ant get off to it anymore but before, even when I had my heart broken, I still enjoyed sex and now I can't it seems. The same thing goes for porn, I can't get off to it. She had left me and got with someone else not even a month later and ever since, I can't watch it without thinking about her. I've never had this problem before so why now? Has anyone else had this problem?
I think you are mentally burnt out. Right now, you are still heartbroken over your ex, and you can't enjoy sex or porn because you miss her. This is completely normal. Most women, in my opinion, are unable to enjoy sex without feelings attached. I LOVE sex, but I know that I cannot enjoy it unless I have feelings for the person. I remember you were in love with another girl, but you had never met her in person. Your heart was broken, but she wasn't with you physically. There is a difference there. You shared physical intimacy with the most recent one. I could be wrong about all of this. This is just an opinion. I have had this problem before. When I was 16, I fell in love with my very first girlfriend (who was 24). We had sex a lot and dated for a while. She broke up with me because of religious guilt. I didn't have sex for years after her because I just didn't really care to, which is very out of character for me (because having a high sex drive is literally a part of my personality). Another reason I didn't is because she made me feel guilty for even trying to find someone else (she was struggling with her sexuality and didn't want anyone else to have me). My advice is to just surround yourself with things that you love and friends. You have to learn to love yourself, even if you feel like shit. I had to find myself again after my breakup. Once you do, you'll be able to open your heart back up to someone special.
