i have a girlfriend and we have sex as much as we can. but there is this "problem" i don't know if i have ever come and that's bugging me for a long time. of course i feel pleasure, lots of it, but i think i never felt actual coming. maybe smth is wrong with me? we tried fingers (1-4), tongue ofc, little vibrator (idk how it is actually called it is used for stimulating or smth like that) and she comes, i don't... maybe some suggestions or something? or maybe we tried it wrong?
Hey OP, I'm a guy, but I'm very sensitive to my Partners' needs/feelings. Perhaps you have had an orgasm, but it hasn't been especially significant, perhaps you haven't actually had one. Check out these two links and see if one or both of them helps answer your questions: What Is An Orgasm? How Do I Know If I’ve Had One? How Can I Be Positive I Really Had An Orgasm?
so it probably could only be that i might only need more time? like an hour..?? we will of course try that, but maybe more suggestions or something, anything would be appreciated ^^