Hi all Just wondering if anyone could help me out with this. I'm 22 years old and recently have just come out to most of my friends as a lesbian. The only embarrassing thing is that I've never been with anyone before, let alone a girl! Up until last year, every single person I've ever known has been straight, - and I've never wanted to be intimate with or even kiss a guy - even though I've had plenty of offers. I'm also very feminine so the few times I've been to a gay club, I'm never hit on by girls. Since I've now gotten a few more gay friends, they've offered to take me out. I really just want to be intimate with a girl, even someone I don't know - but I don't know how to get someone's attention at a club, since I'm shy as well. I also am really scared that I will have absolutely no idea what I'm doing. Are there girls out there that don't care about virgins? Or is that a complete turn off. Thanks!
I can't offer much advice for how to get someone's attention since I don't really go clubbing, but I imagine that if you look like you're having a good time with your friends someone might approach you? As for having no idea what you're doing, I'm sure you won't be the only virgin at the club- and even if you find a girl who isn't, if she's right for you it wouldn't bother her that you'd never had sex before
This comes up a lot....I'm a 26 year old virgin in every definition of the term (including kissing). I am way older than half of the people making these topics, and it hasn't bothered me any. I think it only matters if you're looking for a serious relationship. For a hook-up, you don't need to tell anyone, especially if you aren't going to see them again. I feel like gay virgins are going to be a bit better in bed their first time because they are more familiar with the proper anatomy.
