Hey all, I am currently suffering from erectile Dysfunction, every time I have sex. I can keep an erection until we get to intercourse, then it erects about 50% and fluctuates, eventually we always have to stop, this happens every time and I am not happy. I want to be versatile and confident with sex. I know that it is mostly probably stress/performance anxiety and working on relaxing more will help but that is easier said than done. I suffer from depression/anxiety and have taken loads of meds for it before. They have/ and haven't had effects on my sex life, it's defo not medication related, not taking them anymore. I am embarrassed to go to my doctor but hopefully am forcing myself to go at the next available appointment this week/ next. Because I don't have a partner and am not in a committed relationship, I feel my doctor may look down on me or view me as promiscuous for sleeping with men on a more casual basis than being tied down with someone long term, but If that kind of person was available to me right now I would take them obviously- I am still searching for them, and hope to by continuing to meet new people. I am working on building my confidence so I am ready to be in a loving relationship and be the best version of myself. coming to terms with my sexuality gave me a whole new motive to get up and go exploring to find guys who could be a relationship potential. I am happy looking about until I find the one. I feel I need Viagra or something of that nature, currently I am buying expensive supplements and have been using those for a while to help maintain an erection. This is something I cannot keep affording, even if they could prescribe those supplements it would be handy as Prescriptions are free here. What do you think is best guys, should I go speak to my doc? has anyone went to their docs with this before, what did he ask / outcome?
Oh i didn't know the doctor had to physically examine you. this sounds very embarrassing. i might just have to stick to expensive supplements to save embarrassment!
Hi There, I am sorry to hear that this is giving you such a hard time. I can't say that i know exactly what it feels like but I can see that it is obviously causing you a lot of difficulty. Do you mind saying how old you are? There are a lot of things that can cause erectile dysfunction, some of which may indicate more serious health concerns, but of course the list of things that could be wrong can vary substantially with your age and other health concerns you may have. Things like heart disease, depression, diabetes, etc. can all cause erectile dysfunction for example. If it is indeed psychological, then medications like viagara may not help. These affect impaired physiology and not your mood. If you don't have the will/mindset to get/maintain an erection than these drugs aren't likely to provide much benefit to you. The fact that you are still able to get erections suggests that the cause is probably psychogenic. Do you still get morning erections as well? If so, it also points to a psychologic cause for this. Most of those supplements are likely giving you a placebo affect as they aren't proven to work that well. Maybe by addressing the underlying issue, you won't come to rely on them as much to perform. I would definitely talk to your doctor about it. Being promiscuous is certainly not something that your doctor would judge you for. They are there to help you be safe with your choices, not to make them for you or judge you based on them. If you are having sex with many men as well, it might be a good idea to also get a routine STI screening done just to be safe. Either way, it would be a good first step to speak to someone about it. Good luck and hope you feel better.
Interesting, very interesting topic: - the internal contradiction between the ego and the realization of the libido limits the neurosis creates a situation of preventive treason for the sake of maintaining the stability of the individual and is not considered an individual as treason, namely as self-preservation. Psychologists, however, can be regarded as a protective mechanism of personality.
Ok, not even sure what naoky78 is talking about. My question to you OP is this: can you achieve and maintain an erection for masturbation? If so, then I would suggest that your issue is entirely a mental one. If not, then you may have some physical issues. I would try to determine which is the case first and proceed from there. Take care. ride:
Naoky is spouting gibberish. Most likely, it's a sophisticated bot... we're looking into that. I'm with I'm Gay. If you (OP) can masturbate and maintain an erection -- which it seems you can -- then your problem isn't the kind of erectile dysfunction that drugs will fix, and you don't need Viagra or the equivalent. (Contrary to what Pfizer Pharmaceuticals would like you to believe.) Many people don't realize that sex and arousal is a complex combination of physical, mental, and psychological. Most likely something is going on here where you feel uncomfortable, insecure, or a sense of pressure to perform. (All of those, by the way are common, particularly in people who are relatively new to sex.) So the best thing I'd suggest is to be open with your partner. Let him know that it's embarrassing for you and that you want to solve it, that it isn't him, and that both of you just need some patience. I think if you take the pressure off of yourself to perform, you'll suddenly find it much easier to perform. And a very large percentage of the time, once you get over the mental block that is usually the cause of the problem... it goes away and rarely, if ever, comes back. Your problem
you wouldn't believe i've always thought psychologists were external and self sufficient people and not internal protective mechanisms within one's own personality
Playboy... do you seriously think the doctor hasn't seen something like this before? Remember, he's had fingers up guys' butts, held their balls while they coughed and probably treated every STD in the book. Go talk to your doctor and explain everything. He's your doctor, not your moral compass.
