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i'm getting tested today

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by lurvcurvs, Dec 9, 2009.

  1. lurvcurvs

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    i've never been so nervous. i almost came out to my dad last night and i was less nervous then than i am now. i'm at work and i can't think straight or concentrate. i'm jittery as hell. i can't tell anyone because i'm not out to anyone. the only one i'm out to is my best friend hopefully soon my boyfriend. but if i'm positive, he probably wont want to be my boyfriend. :bang:

    i just need to tell someone, anyone, EC is the best place i guess. i get tested in about 3 hours. i'm trying to stay positive about being negative! :dry:
     
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    dont worry im sure youll be fine just relax :slight_smile:
     
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    good luck with your test!!
     
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    Well, is this the worry of general uncertainty... or the worry of past mistakes?
     
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    That was my question. Is there a reason you would think you might be positive? Have you been having unprotected sex? Because if you haven't, or haven't been sharing needles, etc....I think you're worry is unfounded. But good luck none the less!
     
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    i haven't shared needles, and i haven't had unprotected sex. but i had a couple guys go down on me without a condom. is that cause for concern?
     
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    Well
    1. If the boy had no stds or hiv then you're pretty much fine.
    2. Oral sex generally has a low risk for HIV. You have a much higher chance of receiving HIV if you're the one doing the sucking or going down on someone as you put it. Now there is a slight chance of receiving HIV, like a 0.5 of 10,000 people. But frankly it's even LOWER than that. The person would need to have a cut in their mouth and blood would need to get into your urethra and then into the blood stream OR the blood would need to get into a cut on your penis. But it's still good to get checked for things like gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, that sorta thing.
     
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    it is if they had any cuts in their mouth

    but... apart from that you should be ok transmition via oral i once read i believe is 0.004%

    or around that..

    but its allways good to get checked i myself might get teh results of a retest of mine tomorrow... well later today.


    good luck :wink:
     
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    From the sounds of it it seems that you have always done the right thing and protected yourself. As Revan46 indicated, the risk of infection from oral sex is pretty low. I don't think you have to worry about too much.

    Good luck with the test and I hope everything will turn out well. If you want, let us know how it turns out. (*hug*)
     
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    Please let us know. This is also a good place for you to come for support. While I haven't really seen anyone coming to us about living with HIV, I still think you could still come to us for support :slight_smile: We're not judgmental and love you for who you are. Though I hope and am sure you're negative :slight_smile:
     
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    thanks everyone, thats encouraging. i'm a pretty paranoid person. i run through scenarios in my head of all the bad things that can happen. i'm in my room and ive thought of a plane crashing into my roof, a serial killer knocking on my door and blowing out my brains, or having a random failure in my body. lol. i know, ive got issues. its probably nothing but i'm glad i went so i can be sure.

    thanks for all the support! (&&&)
     
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    Oh hun, I'm a hypochondriac too. Me I have aches under my arm, and I wind up checking every 30 seconds to see if my lymph nodes are swollen but they're not. If I start sniffing, I have the flue. If my muscles are aching, I MUST have HIV. It's just a combination of all these things. You get what I mean. I think the worst even though it's none of these things!

    But yeah....sucks don't it, but I know what you're going through :slight_smile:
     
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    Receptive oral is low risk for most STDs. It's possible to contract chlamydia and gonorrhea through oral but both are usually symptomatic in guys and both are treatable with antibiotics.

    But since you're sexually active, good for you for getting tested.
     
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    Umm you're worried about telling anyone you are having an std test done as you haven't come out? Do straight people not get std tests or something?


    But yeah good luck although i doubt you will have anything to worry about.
     
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    brad,

    all my family and friends are christians. having sex as a christian is a big no-no. i dont see myself as a christian but everyone thinks that i am. so when i come out, i'm also going to come out as not being a christian. to my family and friends thats a huge deal.
     
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    I'm Clean!!!! I'm Std Free!!!!!
     
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    Congratulations, that is great news :eusa_danc
     
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    I kinda figured hehe.
     
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    Congrats!! =)