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How do you talk about safe sex without sounding insulting?

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by MusicIsLife, May 2, 2010.

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  1. MusicIsLife

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    So my gf and I have been together about two months, and though neither of us are ready for sex yet, I do know that in her last relationship, from what shes told me it was very sexual (with another girl).

    Now when the time comes, I do want to discuss safe sex with her, but I don't know how to do it without sounding like a jerk for assuming that her last partner may have given her something.

    Also, apart from dental dams, what other lesbian safe sex stuff should I be aware of?

    ps: sorry if this is in the wrong section>.>
     
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    I'll let somebody else discuss the safe sex stuff, since that's outside my ken. But as far as talking about it, it's pretty simple - keep it all on you. "I decided early on that once I became sexually active, I was always going to practice safe sex. So when we do start having sex, I'll be making sure to keep us both safe."

    Lex
     
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    I'd say this as well, let her know it's a personal thing about you, nothing to do with her. Better safe than sorry, that sort of thing.
     
    #4 kettleoffish, May 3, 2010
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    Well, safer sex isn't really a discussion. It's a statement of what you will and won't do.

    That can take the form of, "I care enough that I want to be responsible for your health and my health, so I want to be safe".

    Or in the less delicate way of saying it (at least for guys), "No glove. No love. No debate."
     
    #5 KaraBulut, May 3, 2010
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