18, nearly bald

Hi there!

You might want to make an appointment with your doctor to have it checked out. Usually moles are nothing to worry about as we get them all the time but you want to make sure that the texture, size or form of it is not changing in drastic ways, especially if it is a larger mole. So have it checked out to be on the safe side.

As for the balding, it could very well be in your genes. Some people lose their hair earlier than others. That's just the way it is, and the only thing you can really do is to accept it as just another part of you. There are lots of people in their late teens or 20s who are balding. Diet, stress, and your general health can have an impact on hair growth but it shouldn't have such an impact in particular if you have changed things.

Now, and KaraBulut can say more about it and give you more accurate information, but I don't think that you can lose hair from cancer itself, unless the cancer attacks or impacts the hair roots and halts the growth. Hair loss rather occurs during the cancer treatments (chemotherapy and radiation therapy) themselves but it usually will grow back. But as said, KB can give you more info on that.

I think your first step should be to make an appointment with your doctor and have the mole checked out to be on the safe side. But I'm sure it is nothing to worry about. While you are there, you could also ask him/her about your hair loss. He/she could also give you more information. (*hug*)

 

If the mole is really black and not dark brown, you should get it checked out. Other concerning signs would be a mole that is asymmetrical, or that the borders are not clearly defined (it's got ragged borders instead of smooth ones.)

The likelihood that it's anything really serious is small, lots and lots of people have moles, but it's worth getting checked out just to be on the safe side. I doubt that the mole, or anything arising from it, would be causuing or contributing to hair loss.

 

Hi there! As Ben mentioned there are treatments and they can have a pretty good success rate but they also cost a lot of money and you might still not be happy with the end result. It is far cheaper to accept that it is just a natural occurrence and accept yourself. Having hair or being bald, is not going to change you. It is not going to change your personality, it is not going to change anything about you.

 

I think you are concentrating on something that in the grand scheme of things is really insignificant. All that it will do is destroy your self-worth and self-confidence (even further) despite the fact that you can use that to build both of them up and become stronger as a person. As mentioned before, if it is as a result of genetics that you are losing your hairs, you can look into treatments and hair implants and what not, but in the end you might still not be satisfied with the outcome and that could have quite an impact on you, not just in terms of disappointments but also in terms of financial costs.

But at the same time (and let me be blunt): who the fuck gives a shit as to whether you have hair or are bald? If someone does, that person is not worth your time (and not even one hundreds of a second). If that is the attitude, that person doesn't care about the things that make you, you, which are far more important because that will allow someone to say, "hey, I am creating connections with this guy and I understand him. Maybe there is something in him that I like and will allow us to form a friendship or go down the road of a relationship."

If you accept it and show a confidence and are confident about yourself, others will follow you and take your lead.

Think about it. Is it really worth agonizing over it, and starting to destroy your self-confidence? No! If you accept it, you will actually built up your self-confidence and self-worth on which you can stand, and say, 'hey, this is me! Accept me for who I am."

Keep telling this to yourself and remind yourself everyday of it. If you have to, stand in front of the mirror and keep repeating it over and over again. Accept yourself, and accept the fact that every person is different.

 

Hi there! You have something right here to be proud off, and know how much work you have put into it to achieve your goal of losing weight and getting into shape.

You know what? All of that is still important and at the base of your self-esteem and self-worth. Don't destroy that by focusing or zeroing on a really insignificant thing because and let me say this again, in the grand scheme of things it does not matter. With or without hair, you are still going to be the same person, and you are still going to have the same qualities. Nothing will change about you.

Is your head going to be shitty? No! It is just another part of you that makes you, you. Look back on what you have achieved. Remind yourself of the achievements. Because that is what counts, nothing else.

It is all a matter of how you look at it. If you look at yourself in the mirror and say "yeah, I have worked on getting into shape, I have worked my butt off to achieve all of that, and I am happy with the way I look", your self-esteem will spike and you will feel different about yourself. You are going to be fine with 'how' you are, how you look.

But, if on the other hand you are concentrating on something that isn't worth concentrating on, your self-esteem will fall and everything you have achieved in the past will be flushed down the drain with it. And why do you want to do that? Don't do it!

You know, and you alone know, how far you have come. Built on that self esteem, built on your achievements and your success by accepting yourself, and accepting the fact that everyone looks different. This is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. If you do that, you will become stronger and that strength and self-confidence will show. You have that quality within you. Use that quality. (*hug*)