What Sue Johanson defines as virginity...

It's interesting how someone talking about a homosexual and another homosexual having sex, not actually being "sex". Whereas other people think that's all we think about.

 

She's correct in the traditional "still a virgin before marriage" sense.

The whole point of being a virgin when you married was to ensure that a child born from the union was from the husband. In some cultures, blood on the honeymoon bedsheets was a sign that the bride was indeed a virgin.

So, handjobs, blowjobs, anal sex preserve virginity in the literal sense- at least for heterosexual couples. And the concept of virginity for same-sex couples doesn't really apply since what we do typically doesn't produce children and questions about parentage.

For convenience sake, everyone can say "I'm still a virgin" but we still end up asking, "So, does that mean you haven't done anything with another person?"

 

historically, there were in some cultures people who would test the virginity of a woman through a embaressing sounding examination.

does this mean I will be a virgin forever? A had a friend who was staunch mangolmaniactic baptist, who said virgins automarically go to heaven... kaching!

 

Hmmm interesting....

 

This lady can stick her heteronormative definitions of sex right up her arse. Can you really call someone who has had everything BUT tabA-slotB sex a virgin? Sure, they can be vaginal-sex-with-a-penis-from-a-man virgin, but they are a virgout (seriously, check on the VlogBrothers if you miss the reference) in every other regard. If she's a sexpert, then I'm a 6th century British historian that eats potatoes for every meal.

And bah! Virginity and its associated concepts of purity are ridiculous in any case. I think we need to rework society's thoughts on virginity (and whatever the heck that means). Why is it considered to be so super special awesome that we think less of those who have lost it? And what the hell is losing your virginity? I didn't misplace it behind the couch. Fuck, I didn't lose my virginity. I didn't even give it away. I just had sex.

 

In my opinion, Sue Johanson isn't really a sexpert. She's an old lady who is chill about talking about sex, so they hired her to make people laugh.
So really, what she says isn't law.
Also,

YES. Nerdfighters ftw.

 

Someone once told me 'I lost my virginity, but I still have the box it came in':rolle:



Personally, I think you lose your virginity when you have penetrative sex. Some people I've spoken to seem to think oral is classed as sex, which I find weird. Its called 'oral' after all....

 

Oral is penetrative. It penetrates the mouth! :lol:

 

With the holes on the bottom half of you then?

 

do a handstand then... tada, problem solved.

 

:eusa_doh:

 

I had some people tell me the same thing a few days ago. apparently there are two types of viginity. the 'real' kind, and the lesbian kind. thanks guys.

 

This woman is out of touch. It's ridiculous to define virginity so rigidly in an age like this.

 

I actually find it offensive when people think I'm a virgin because I havent had heterosexual penetrative sex with a penis and a vagina. I think it's just plain rude to think that other forms of sex don't count. The epitome of ignorance.


Firstly, a lot of people who believe that, believe it because they think that in order for a woman to lose her virginity, her "cherry has to be popped". This is ridiculous, as 9I'm sure you all know this but still) the hymen (thin flap of skin that partially covers the vaginal entrance) usually breaks long before a woman first has sex, from anything from riding a bike to gymnastics, or inserting a tampon even. Does this mean she's not a virgin? No. A lot of people I've met seem to think (using logic taken from the last bit) that you can lose your virginity to an inanimate object ¬¬



The definition of virginity (or the losing of) that I personally find most appropriate, is:

In order to have lost your virginity you need to have participated in some some sort of sexual practice with another human being.


Do you guys think that's about accurate?

I believe the term is "oral sex"

 

As has been pointed out, its an opinion thing. My opinion is, its just a blow job.

 

There's nakedness, touching, mutual stimulation and orgasm. What about that isn't sex?

 

Like i said, my opinion is, its a blow job. Different to sex, different to a hand job.

 

I really think that individual people are the only people who can define what virginity is.

 

I think that vaginal or anal counts as losing virginity
If you've only done oral, then you're half a virgin
I'm not sure what happens for lesbians though, they can sort themselves out lol