I can't cry.

you ok caractacus, the last I cry was watching toys story 3. there nothing wrong with you like I didn't cry when my dog die I was up set but I didn't cry I wish I cry for him. it just building up.

 

I know how you feel but not sure if it means something is wrong or not. I when though something kind of major last week and almost couldnt stop crying but before that I can't even remember the last time i was aable to cry.

I thought I was some kind of mental block because when I was younger I would cry everytime I was upset about anything and my dad got mad at me for doing it and said I need to stop crying about everything. Ironicly he was the one that made me cry last week.

 

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I haven't cried in years either, but that doesn't mean we're emotional zombies. It just means we don't cry as much!

 

I think I last cried when I was twelve. That would make it over half my life that I haven't cried. Including on situations like deaths of family members or emotional moments like finishing school.

But to me, that's not a problem. If I feel bad, I have other ways of dealing with the situation, like talking about it. If I'm moved by something, my eyes will at most go slightly moist, but I never feel like crying would accomplish more than not crying would. For me, anything I could accomplish with crying, I can accomplish better by talking, writing or thinking about it.

So the question really is the following: do you feel like there are things you can't move past without crying? If yes, then you might want to talk to a specialist about it. If no, then you're likely just not someone who wears his emotions on his sleeve, and has other ways of dealing with them. And that's perfectly fine.

 

That's not necessarily true... Crying doesn't mean you're not thinking or talking about something. It just depends on the person. Though now, after going through a lot of hard times, I cry a lot less than I used to. I still cry sometimes though, but that's because I almost think I enjoy it. When I'm feeling particularly lonely or sad, I like to get away from people and let my emotions take over. It's actually very relaxing for me to cry. I have had times in periods where I couldn't cry, even if I wanted to. I do not know why this is. Like I mentioned, crying does not mean you don't think about the situation or you don't talk about the situation... for an easy example, teachers don't like students listening to music while they work, but often times it helps people concentrate and relax. Just because someone listens to music (or cries) does not mean that person is not, or cannot multitask. I like to offer the idea that perhaps it helps me relax while I'm talking to people about the issues, and I don't cry because I wear my emotions on my sleeve.

 

I'll just add a few comments from reading only the thread starter post. Basically through HS/college, I would hardly ever cry. Almost never. At the most dear funerals a little. In the past 6 months, prior to coming out in December, I really didn't cry at all. I don't know if I ever actually cried.

During my coming out in December and since then (basically 2 full months to the day) I have cried more than I cried all of HS/college. Everything from sitting at work and heavily tearing up (totally private thankfully) to crying and practically screaming in the car to simply balling in my private apartment. I am so much more in tune with my emotions now and I have so much to be happy/sad about.

I cry because I am so happy everyone was so accepting of me being gay. I cry for all those who aren't so lucky. I cry thanking God for everything I have. I cry dreaming about what is in store for me, relationship wise. I cry for the two guys I have been with very briefly because it feels like I've "lost" them.

Everything from light tearing up to coughing and stuttered breathing as I gather myself. The lightest to the strongest crying of my life. It really does me good, though. I remember crying like this in grade or maybe middle school. It is the worst thing to start, but in the midst of the crying, and especially when I see light at the end of the tunnel and resolve the issues that started me crying, it is the best feeling ever.

Tuesday I basically cried myself to sleep over a guy that I really wanted to be friends with. It was a touchy situation. Almost every experience I have is a first, but I'm trying to be less dramatic to help myself get past these experiences.

 

Prayers for Bobby is probably the first major event that really set me off for crying. I was coughing and crying profusely from about 1/3 in until the end. I still can freak out watching it, and I've watched it around 40 times.

 

Yup, I think that's the last time I actually had tears coming down my face. First time I watched that movie it really hit me hard. But I find this thread interesting because I thought I was just becoming emotionless or trying to act "hard", but I guess it's the same with everyone. My sister's dog was hit by a car and I didn't even really care and didn't even tear up - I thought I was like a psycho. I've teared up a bit recently, but haven't let out a good cry in a long long time. The last time I actually remember crying is when my dog died and that was probably when I was 14 or 15, now I'm 21 almost 22.

 

Me neither.