Average relationships

I actually read on Psychology Today's website that some studies are showing that some of the most lasting and best marriages are often between people 21 to 25 or something like that. I thought it was crazy! But obviously this study is of straight people.

EDIT: so maybe look on Psychology Today's website?

 

Because clearly a straight study cannot reflect homosexual couples...and people wonder why straights say we're not equal.

 

Whoa, hold on there. That's not what I'm saying AT ALL. I'm just saying that to get results for both straights and gays together you actually have to study both straights and gays and everyone else. In order for a study to be generalizable it has to be of the whole population, not just women, not just men, not just straights/gays/transgenders/bisexuals/asexuals/pansexuals etc.

And also stats about marriage generally don't include gays because in most states we can't do that. Including mine. So it's not like I'm happy about it.

 

I know. I'm just saying though that there's nothing that says that straight relationships can't mirror homosexual relationships...

 

You're right.

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This is, I think, difficult to get statistics on considering it's highly dependent on the people involved, the life circumstances going on, etc. I've actually done a little googling and surfing the net about the subject since I last wrote.

I really don't think you're going to get credible, accurate statistics on the subject, but if anyone knows better, say so because I am not an expert by FAR.

 

That makes sense. Someone at 21 is still developing into who they are going to be and still figuring out who they are. You might think this something that would lead to divorce but it isn't because if two people are married at that age they sort of find themselves together and are able to sort of mould themselves around each other. A 30 year old is much less inflexible and much more used to being independent and therefore it's harder to form a life with another person. These are all just generalities though of course.

 

Yeah totally. That's what the article actually says, I think, but it's been a while since I read it.

 

Just to clarify here, you're waiting until his relationship with his boyfriend ends so that you can be friends with him?

Honey, it could be anywhere from now to never. Are you sure he's worth the wait? If he lied when he hooked up with you and then completely cut you out of his life to go back to his boyfriend, he's definitely acting like he doesn't care about you as much as you deserve.

Not that I can be the judge of what either of you do as right or wrong, but I honestly think that you can do better in the friend department.

 

It doesnt mean that they do, though.

 

Then I hope it happens for you, that's a tough thing to lose.(*hug*)

 

To me almost all homosexual relationships are fundamentally different than heterosexual relationships just based on the fact that there is so much social baggage associated with being in one. This fact alone makes a sizeable segment of the homosexual community resort to "liasons" or "down-low" behavior, rather than honest, meaningful, long-term relationships.

Just based on my own experience (no scientific study whatsoever) I'd say male homosexual relationships tend to be shorter and more intense/dramatic - at least when it comes to young adult males - while the stereotype of the "U-haul" lesbian holds pretty strong. With age, both demographics tend to settle down as far as I've seen. It also seems to me that homosexuals tend to "settle down" into long-term relationships roughly a decade in life later than their straight peers, which I think can be attributed to the extra time homosexuals need to become comfortable with their sexuality. That discrepancy will probably change as kids come out queer earlier and earlier.

Straights take for granted the fact that they can be in an open, honest relationship, while a lot of homosexuals can't even tell their closest relatives they're seeing someone...

 

You've mentioned this guy a few times now. You need to quit fooling yourself, that guy being drunk was not in that much danger. You wanted to have sex and you found some drunk to go home with you and convinced him to have sex. Now you are obsessed with him and think you can't live with out him. Trying to figure out how to get him away from his boyfriend. That is kind of creepy. No, I take that back. That is creepy.

Yeah that may be harsh, but dude listen to what you are saying.