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Do you see a shrink and if so, what for?

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  1. IanGallagher

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    I was just wondering how many people on here have a psychologist lol. Don't know why. Just interested or it's just late and I'm trying to pass the time.

    I have one. My previous one, only two weeks in said he couldn't help and recommended I try somewhere else. Guess I was too 'psychotic' in some areas for him lol. Seeing a new guy Thursday. Should be interesting. Apparently he deals with the past. I'm kinda fucked up due to being an orphan albeit adopted. It just messed up my god-forsaken psyche.

    Other problem is I can't get 100% cured since I'm a Hollywood writer lol. You take away my scars? I'm worried what would happen to my particular voice. Thus, I need to final an emotional balance that lets me be functional while still enabling me to work.

    So what's your deal?
     
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    On and Off, i've seen them, really havn't gotten much outta it though but i suppose that's because i'm not as open to it as i should be, Thinking of going back soon thought give it another try, desperate times right
     
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    Im also on and off, mainly because of my parents divorce and i was a rebel teenager and got kicked out of schools, but turns out its because i have ADHD, so im on meds now and a bit more lets say... calmer. :slight_smile: but i get checked up by the pysch at uni because of the study support program.
     
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    I'm am glad you asked that....cuz I've always wondered why my mental problems started around the time that I realized I wasn't straight. I'm diagnosed schizoaffective bipolar and am a gender confused pansexual......so in all honesty I can see why I'd be a bit messed in the head. So to answer your question I am seeing a psychologist, though I'm not quite sure why, seeing as I've psychoanalyzed myself better than this doctor has been able to :badgrin:
     
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    Did he really say "I can't help you, try somewhere else"? Or did he put it more like "I don't feel like I have the skills that would best suit your needs, let me help you find someone who's a better match for you." I would hope it was closer to the second, but I've heard a lot of horror stories about truly godawful therapists who do say things like "You have way too many problems" or "I'm sorry, I can't help you" or the like.

    While it's easy to take something like that as a huge personal blow -- as though you must really be screwed up or something -- the reality is, there are many therapists who are downright awful and probably don't have the common sense God gave to a head of lettuce... and many of those will see a client, month after month, doing no good whatsoever... which both tends to alienate the client, thinking that therapy is no good for them, and to waste everyone's time. So actually, even if your therapist was inartful in saying it, my guess is it's less about you being a difficult case, and more about that therapist simply having no experience in the area you need help with, or no expertise in the types of approaches that would best suit you. It's hard not to take it personally, but try not to. Many people "try out" 4 or 5 or more therapists before they find the one they feel most comfortable with, and/or, the one who will help them do the most work.

    I saw several different therapists over a period of a number of years. One was excellent, another very good, the others so-so. I gained something from each, but it was the first one and the last one that truly changed my life.
     
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    I see someone weekly for bipolar, PTSD, and a severe panic disorder. i have been seeing the same person for 9 months and she really helps. I have always been in and out of counseling and psych hospitals but now that i am an adult i am actually working in therapy,,,
     
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    I see a psychologist and a psychiatrist, both for depression, anxiety, OCD, ADD, and atypical mood disorder.
     
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    I saw a shrink for quite a while. Therapy only helps when you open up, really. For me, my shrink didn't say much at all. I just talked to him about my problems, and kept talking until I figured them out myself. Or he'd beat me at chess and I'd get all mopey.

    But, yeah, therapy helps if you open up. Otherwise it's a waste of time and money.

    And, therapy wont take the scars away, it'll just help heal the wounds that make the scars. I'm a writer myself, and it never ruined my ability to write with my own voice.
     
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    Well my mom started me with therapy when I was like 4 because my parents got divorced when I was about 1 or 2. I stopped going when I was around 7 and then she made me go back when I was about 13 because I started cutting because I was raped when I was 11 and molested when I was younger than that (she only knows about the rape). I was raped 2 more times after that and diagnosed with depression, anxiety, PTSD and a mood disorder. I also was a bit rebellious because my home situation wasn't the greatest (physical abuse and other things) and once I hit the 8th grade I rarely went to school and when I did I wasn't really ever in class. I'm currently in a specialized therapy and I still see a psychiatrist even tho I'm no longer on meds. It's helpful if you want the help.
     
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    I've seen many and need to see one again. I would really like to address my sexuality. I sort of willingly let myself get violated at a bath house and was doing a lot of "sneaking around" and smoking pot and drinking a lot. I was always drunk. I think it all just affected me and trying to keep secrets led me to an episode where I really lost it. Now I see a doctor for prescriptions but I need to talk it all out with someone.
     
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    I saw three of 'em over a period of four years. None of 'em could knock a dent in my severe dating problems (although we did make progress with my health anxiety). Eventually I stopped wasting my money.
     
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    Well, with me and what the film execs (top studio) I figure like about me, is that I bring a certain raw-ness towards my hatred at my biological father whom I've never met, feeling like an alien alone due to being adopted, and a weird oedipus love for my biological mother who I've also never met lol. He cures my problems of being an orphan? I won't have that wound anymore. I just always see the image of the guy in 'A Beautiful Mind' all numb and unable to work wonders with math. :eek: It could literally kill my career if we break the wall down completely... I mean most of what made James Dean James Dean was his raw emotion towards the events in his life that he brought with him, he really wasn't acting - it was all method and self-torture lol. People like seeing train wrecks. I'm that train wreck. :help:

    Hoping to just be able to be more social and trust people so I can have relationships while retaining the broken past, just able to interact so I can meet people to possibly date and hang out - unsure if I'll totally need to "delete" the past to achieve that though. Feel like I need that to maintain their (studio's) interest.
     
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    That, quite frankly, is a huge pile of BS. :slight_smile:

    The wound itself remains, but your relationship to it changes. You can certainly still access the feelings and memories and motivations and everything else that comes of the experience of growing up that way, but you will also not have to be controlled or tortured by those feelings.

    I hear that sort of BS all the time from people who are too terrified of going into the feelings and working through... not because they're worried about it ruining their careers or something, but because it's genuinely terrifying to work through strong feelings that are buried. But the problem is, that stuff isn't really buried, and it has its effect on every part of you. So you can't just selectively fix one part and leave the other part alone, as it's all tied together; in order to be more social and trust, and to have meaningful relationships and meet people... you need to work on all of the issues.

    But as I said... not to worry, your memories and feelings and all the things that make you you won't go away. They're still accessible, and you'll still be able to draw on them. They just won't control or torture you any more.

    Brene Brown -- a therapist, who ought to know better -- tried doing the same thing for herself. She tells that humorous tale, and how it worked out for her, in this video, which I highly recommend watching:

    [YOUTUBE]X4Qm9cGRub0[/YOUTUBE]​

    So... don't be afraid of doing the self-work you need to do. But find a good therapist to help you with it, and if you don't feel a good connection to the first guy or the second woman or the third person... try a fourth. It might take 3 or 4 or 5 tries to find the right one, but when you do... it will be pretty obvious :slight_smile: If you want some tips on finding a good therapist, send me a PM and I can probably help.
     
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    I see a therapist and a psychiatrist. mostly for depression and anxiety, but I see my therapist for my diabetes as well
     
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    I have Tourettes! :grin:

    In fact, the form of Tourette Syndrome I have seems to be the kind that mimics bipolar disorder and also has the OCD-like quality to it, and it acts a little bit like ADHD. It's all the Tourettes, though. To treat it, I take this out-moded medication they used to use for Parkinson's Disease that my psychiatrist says they figured out works just as the makers of it were talking about taking it off the market, and it is a wonder drug!
     
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    wow thats interesting, yeah i have a book on ADHD and symptoms and meds and stuff (because i have it) and the psych who wrote it says that the symptoms do cross over with others like Tourettes. glad ur meds help :slight_smile:
     
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    What's the difference between a therapist and a psychologist and a psychiatrist?

    I've never seen anyone like that, though I think Mum would like me to. I tried calling Childline once and they were awful, so that has kind of put me off going to a counsellor at school or something. I don't do well with opening up, anyway.
     
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    Psychotherapists are a type of clinical psychologist. They employ a variety of non-medical techniques to help you have a more functional mind. Most therapists use spoken conversation extensively, but they may also put you through a variety of exercises such as doing stories or poems, word-association games, and a lot of other fun stuff. Most therapy practices are fun and calming for the patient, and I think it's a good place to start. They use a lot of extensively field-tested techniques, some of which seem obvious until you realize that you would never have actually thought to do it, to help you improve your quality of life.

    Clinical psychology is broad in scope. Some clinical psychologists are trained to help doctors communicate with hospital patients, which can make a doctor's job much less frustrating. A lot of doctors don't LIKE dealing with patients, especially difficult ones, and this creates jobs for people who are trained for it specifically. However, other jobs in psychology are centered around child-development or education. Finally, some clinical psychologists work as clinical psychotherapists.

    Psychiatrists have a more scientific insight into mental care, and they are able to prescribe medications to patients who have a need for them. However, some low-rent psychiatrists out there rely too heavily on drug therapy, and more reputable practitioners tend to recommend a combination of clinical psychotherapy and drug therapy, which is widely considered to be the most effective approach to clinical care.


    A counselor is a gate-keeper position, for the most part. You might actually go to a counselor and come home feeling like all he/she did was to sit there agreeing with you, and it makes you wonder what these people are being paid for. Well, part of their job is to identify individuals who might be on drugs, are being abused, are being abused sexually, have gender-identity problems, suffer from deeply repressed sexuality or could be a suicide risk, so those people can be sent along to specialists who know how to handle these kinds of problems.

    However, a lot of the people who make the complaint, "all she did was sit there and agree with me," ought to understand that one of the most time-tested approaches to psychotherapy is to give the patient a chance to talk out his or her personal problems in the presence of someone who *gasp* listens. It's really amazing, but most people have a lot of trouble with this concept. Most people are too determined to impose their own ideas or assumptions on others, or they just don't have the patience to listen to someone else. Most people hear something that sounds strange and react with condemnation or some form of judgment. We have been paying people to do this listening thing for over a hundred years because it actually requires skill and experience to really do it.

    Essentially, you have a lot of options here, and a counselor is a good STARTING POINT for getting the care you need. They are not an endpoint unless the things that are missing from your life are things that are fairly basic, which is actually the case a lot more often than you would think.
     
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    I saw a few. One when I was 9 or so, and one when I was in a depression when I was 25. Both were generally positive experiences.

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    I saw one when I was 17 through to about 19 - I got diagnosed at 18 with ADHD and also found out I was Dyscalculic, my parents always suspected there was something up, but didn't want to medicate me as a young child for fear of "Turning me into a zombie and oppressing my creativity". . which I was actually eternally grateful for, as I was able to form my own coping mechanisms growing up with the help of my mum and dad and a few teachers, and they allowed me to make the decision to become medicated by my own free will once I got older.
    My Psych was an amazing man who helped me over look my short comings, and made me focus on and admit to all the things I excelled at.

    I'm now 24, on behavior meds, and I feel amazing! :grin: