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mckey · 17th Mar 2012, 06:51 AM

Dont wanna watch porn
Dont wanna get addicted to guys pictures and gay novels
Now I am too easy to Sperm-out
What can i do to quit this kind of bad habit?

Fugs · 17th Mar 2012, 08:48 AM

I am quite confused, but as for not masturbating just fill your day with other things so you don't have the time to think about it. When people get bored things tend to happen

**Mogget** · 17th Mar 2012, 10:29 AM

There's nothing wrong with masturbating unless it's interfering with the rest of your life.

**Chip** · 17th Mar 2012, 10:32 AM

If you're talking about quitting masturbating... that isn't too far off of quitting breathing. Almost every human does that now and then.

Do you feel like you're doing it too much? Or do you feel guilty about doing it? If you can talk more about the underlying reasons why you want to stop, it will be easier to help identify what the real issue is.

Nat3 · 17th Mar 2012, 12:10 PM

I guess it depends on personal perspective... but since when is masturbating a "bad habit"?

Revan · 17th Mar 2012, 03:48 PM

Unless it's causing obstruction to your daily life, like you're late to work because you wanted to jack off first, or are actually doing it at work or school or w/e, then yeah it's a problem. Otherwise, just DO IT!

**KaraBulut** · 17th Mar 2012, 05:13 PM

Is the issue jacking off? Jacking off to porn? Or is the issue jacking off to gay porn?

17th Mar 2012, 05:48 PM

Masturbation isn't a bad habit, although it depends how often you do it, and if it interferes with other aspects of your life, and if you prefer that to a partner. But, honestly if it's bothering you that much, then you'll just need to keep yourself occupied. Hobby, Sports, Drawing, Painting, Hanging out with Friends..etc. etc.

I don't know if masturbation is kind of a new experience for you or not, because it might be little weird if you're not quite comfortable with it all yet. Seriously though, it's not bad. In fact it can help overall in your sex life, you discover a bit of what gets you off, where you like to be touched. Explore and Enjoy ^_^

manoverboard09 · 21st Mar 2012, 03:08 PM

Everyone masturbates!
For the most part..
I assume? :P

If it's because you feel guilty after you do it, well.. most guys do. That's just life. That's how our brains work.
But if its because it's becoming an addiction or something then you just need to cut back!

unknownerror · 26th Mar 2012, 08:33 PM

as the late great Richard Jeni said "95% of all men masturbate. the other 5%? no arms!"

there is no need to feel shame from masturbating to what stimulates you. accepting this will make things a lot easier.

Farouche · 29th Mar 2012, 10:44 PM

It is not a bad habit. It is a normal, human thing to do. I've found that for myself, if I masturbate and satisfy myself completely then I don't think about it for a few days, but if I'm trying not to think about it then I end up wanting to do it constantly. But I'm physically female, so it might be different for you. Anyway, don't feel guilty about it, it's not wrong.

Snyder · 30th Mar 2012, 10:36 PM

As Dan Savage says: "Why would want to avoid developing a porn addiction?"

Dan Savage at U of Montana: How to avoid developing a porn addiction in Montana. - YouTube

TriCube · 31st Mar 2012, 01:11 AM

If it's the porn that's bothering you, I recommend you check out
Your Brain On Porn | Evolution has not prepared your brain for today's Internet porn.

It's really insightful and gives you a different perspective of the effects porn has on the mind.

However, I think masturbating is perfectly OK, as long as you aren't using it as a replacement for anything and it's not holding you back from certain things in your life. Many people find the sessions that don't require porn and rely purely on imagination to be more fulfilling and satisfying.

TheAMan · 31st Mar 2012, 06:25 AM

There's nothing wrong with masterbating. It's actually quite a normal human thing to do. Unless it's messing up your personal life, I don't see why you should stop.

asianmannheim · 31st Mar 2012, 08:49 AM

Quitting masturbating is just like ignoring life's excitement. But, getting deeply addicted to it isn't healthy.I'm sad that I'm porn and masturbating addicted. So Mckey, let's learn how to control it.

crazyhead · 3rd Apr 2012, 10:36 PM

These are only bad habits when you do them too much. Everything has an excess and a vice. What you need to do is find the golden mean. It's good to spend some alone time with your computer and your right hand now and again.

17th Mar 2012, 06:51 AM	#1
mckey Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 1 Join Date: Mar 2012	I wanna quit jerk-off Dont wanna watch porn Dont wanna get addicted to guys pictures and gay novels Now I am too easy to Sperm-out What can i do to quit this kind of bad habit?

17th Mar 2012, 08:48 AM	#2
Fugs Girl Fox Full Member Gender: Vixen Orientation: Love all the people! Out Status: Everyone knows I'm trans :) Location: Bowling Green, OH Age: 19 Posts: 1,027 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off I am quite confused, but as for not masturbating just fill your day with other things so you don't have the time to think about it. When people get bored things tend to happen __________________ I have only abandoned my body, I still live here.

17th Mar 2012, 10:29 AM	#3
Mogget May all beings be happy EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Mostly homosexual, panromantic Out Status: Out to eveyone as gay, a few as panromantic Location: Alaska Age: 23 Posts: 3,107 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off There's nothing wrong with masturbating unless it's interfering with the rest of your life. __________________ So with a boundless mind may I cherish all living things, Suffusing love over the entire world - Above, below, and all around, without limit; So may I cultivate an infinite good will toward the whole world. - Metta Sutta

17th Mar 2012, 10:32 AM	#4
Chip EC Advisor EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: northern CA Posts: 8,596 Join Date: May 2008	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off If you're talking about quitting masturbating... that isn't too far off of quitting breathing. Almost every human does that now and then. Do you feel like you're doing it too much? Or do you feel guilty about doing it? If you can talk more about the underlying reasons why you want to stop, it will be easier to help identify what the real issue is.

17th Mar 2012, 12:10 PM	#5
Nat3 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Human Out Status: Everyone who asks. Location: USA, Kansas Age: 21 Posts: 312 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off I guess it depends on personal perspective... but since when is masturbating a "bad habit"?

17th Mar 2012, 03:48 PM	#6
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: Dick Orientation: Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 25 Posts: 7,597 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off Unless it's causing obstruction to your daily life, like you're late to work because you wanted to jack off first, or are actually doing it at work or school or w/e, then yeah it's a problem. Otherwise, just DO IT! __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

17th Mar 2012, 05:13 PM	#7
KaraBulut EC Health Expert Expert Gender: Male Location: US Posts: 4,898 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off Is the issue jacking off? Jacking off to porn? Or is the issue jacking off to gay porn?

17th Mar 2012, 05:48 PM	#8
frozenandbroken Guest Posts: n/a Tournaments Won: 15	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off Masturbation isn't a bad habit, although it depends how often you do it, and if it interferes with other aspects of your life, and if you prefer that to a partner. But, honestly if it's bothering you that much, then you'll just need to keep yourself occupied. Hobby, Sports, Drawing, Painting, Hanging out with Friends..etc. etc. I don't know if masturbation is kind of a new experience for you or not, because it might be little weird if you're not quite comfortable with it all yet. Seriously though, it's not bad. In fact it can help overall in your sex life, you discover a bit of what gets you off, where you like to be touched. Explore and Enjoy ^_^

21st Mar 2012, 03:08 PM	#9
manoverboard09 Dustin: EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: 2 friends and those who ask Location: Tennessee Age: 23 Posts: 342 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off Everyone masturbates! For the most part.. I assume? :P If it's because you feel guilty after you do it, well.. most guys do. That's just life. That's how our brains work. But if its because it's becoming an addiction or something then you just need to cut back! __________________ NOH8

26th Mar 2012, 08:33 PM	#10
unknownerror Yay! I'm me :) Full Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: definitely interested in men Out Status: 75 or so, getting close to completely out! Location: Skullcrusher Mountain Age: 40 Posts: 122 Join Date: Mar 2012	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off as the late great Richard Jeni said "95% of all men masturbate. the other 5%? no arms!" there is no need to feel shame from masturbating to what stimulates you. accepting this will make things a lot easier. __________________ We have done the impossible, and that makes us mighty.

29th Mar 2012, 10:44 PM	#11
Farouche EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Genderqueer biofemale Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Out except to grandparents and cousins Posts: 252 Join Date: Feb 2012	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off It is not a bad habit. It is a normal, human thing to do. I've found that for myself, if I masturbate and satisfy myself completely then I don't think about it for a few days, but if I'm trying not to think about it then I end up wanting to do it constantly. But I'm physically female, so it might be different for you. Anyway, don't feel guilty about it, it's not wrong. __________________ A million people may call the mountains a fiction, yet it need not trouble you as you stand atop them. -- Nietzche

30th Mar 2012, 10:36 PM	#12
Snyder Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Raleigh, NC Age: 15 Posts: 62 Join Date: Mar 2012	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off As Dan Savage says: "Why would want to avoid developing a porn addiction?" Dan Savage at U of Montana: How to avoid developing a porn addiction in Montana. - YouTube

31st Mar 2012, 01:11 AM	#13
TriCube Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: 2 close friends Location: Italy Age: 21 Posts: 149 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off If it's the porn that's bothering you, I recommend you check out Your Brain On Porn \| Evolution has not prepared your brain for today's Internet porn. It's really insightful and gives you a different perspective of the effects porn has on the mind. However, I think masturbating is perfectly OK, as long as you aren't using it as a replacement for anything and it's not holding you back from certain things in your life. Many people find the sessions that don't require porn and rely purely on imagination to be more fulfilling and satisfying. __________________ "Seriously, it's not supposed to be easy... that's why it feels so fucking good." - AWOLNATION

31st Mar 2012, 06:25 AM	#14
TheAMan EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: close friends Location: VA Age: 18 Posts: 471 Join Date: Feb 2012	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off There's nothing wrong with masterbating. It's actually quite a normal human thing to do. Unless it's messing up your personal life, I don't see why you should stop. __________________ If you love something let it go. If it comes back it was yours to keep. If it doesn't it was never yours.

31st Mar 2012, 08:49 AM	#15
asianmannheim Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Posts: 4 Join Date: Mar 2012	Re: I wanna quit jerk-off Quitting masturbating is just like ignoring life's excitement. But, getting deeply addicted to it isn't healthy.I'm sad that I'm porn and masturbating addicted. So Mckey, let's learn how to control it.

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