I think I have a high sex drive:icon_redf, and I don't think it's a good thing. I could be wrong, however, it's pretty bad. Is there anyway I can calm it down. Masturbation is kind of a - "ugh, no no" :bang:
I would change places with you in a second x.x my sex drive has been absolutely zero for the last few weeks
not to be graphic on purpose, but it's bad, I was making out with my gf and I was completely drenched (wet; sorry) it was embarrasing. She said she didn't mind, but I did, I walked out the room to change my pants. I have to go for my first gyn exam:eek: (I'm scared) and I'm afarid I might be super drenched, or turned on. Not to mention I have a crush on my doctor. I can't control orgasm:help: ( I can watch family guy, and cross my legs-ugh). I feel ashamed and embarassed! :tears:
You know when life gives you Water, dextrose, high fructose corn syrup, natural flavors, lemon juice, citric acid, sodium hexametaphosphate, sodium benozate, and yellow #5, make lemonade. You're young and have a high sex drive. I say enjoy it, just be safe about it.
Awww. (*hug*) There is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about. Look at me, I'm a guy whose about to turn thirty. I've been masturbating pretty much daily since I was well... since I figured out how to do it properly. (Had some issues in the beginning - the days before the internet. ) When I was your age, I was masturbating at least two or three times per day. Things calmed down as I got older, although for some reason my libido exploded when I was roughly twenty-five, and it was like I was sixteen all over again. LOL. Things have become relatively normal for me since then, though. I consider myself to have an above average libido, and I consider it an extremely healthy thing. I'd be worried if my libido suddenly dropped, it would either be a sign that I was about to get sick or that I was depressed or something. I still masturbate roughly once per day. Also, I don't think there is anything wrong with masturbating AND having sex. My personal philosophy? If it itches scratch it.
I don't want this to sound creepy, but if I was in your girlfriend's place, not only would I not mind that you get so turned on, I'd be flattered. I really don't think a high sex drive is anything to be ashamed of. What about masturbation is unappealing to you?
I don't think she mind. We were walking and she kissed me, I had to warn her (remind her, of my sex drive) she just made a seductive laugh. She drives me crazy (in a good way). I feel as though masturbation is too personal, and selffish. We've never had "complete sex' idk if that is what you would call it| No oral. And I like to be the pleaser (most of the time), it's more fun. So masturbation is too personal, not the real deal, and sometimes too fast. IDK, I suck at it. I'm also only 20 yrs old. I feel embarassed. Similar to the episode on "The L Word" when Dana female ejaculated, and felt bad. That's me all the way, ejaculation and all! I wish it would slow down. I thought that when I would get my period, it would slow down. However, my period last no longer than 1-2 days. Most of the time 12hr tops! Idk! I feel weird and ashamed. I just can't stop it! :icon_redf ---------- Post added 13th Jun 2012 at 12:53 AM ---------- Thank for the hug, I smiled when I saw the icon. I posted that I felt as though when I would get my period, my sex drive would be lower. My period (TMI- I know) would decrease it, I get my period for no more than 2 days. Typically 12 hrs! No help at all! Maybe my gyn can help me out. I am afraid though that during my first exam, she'll see how soaked I am and will walk out! :-( :icon_sad: I just feel indifferent about masturbation. Not to mention I don't know much, and am bad at it! I don't like porn, so that's out the picture. IDK. I wish I would slow down a little. Orgasms while watching t.v not even thinking about it, is kinda a lot. My bfff is jealous, however, i feel like it's a curse, a long with many things. Thanks for not being grossed out!
I don't know a whole lot about menstruation, so it's hard for me to be really helpful there. However, I do know that if there is something odd about it you should talk to your doctor. I want to address two things though. First, I totally understand how you feel about being examined by a doctor. It's something guys go through and worry about all the time. Basically, straight or gay, if someone is going to fondle your junk - and let me speak from the perspective of someone with fairly high libido - you're going to get a response. Thankfully, it's never happened to me... except once. I was having my prostate examined and got a semi-erection (it's involuntary!) but the doctor didn't notice, because the moment he was done (he was behind me and I was facing away) my pants came up so fast. LOL. I've heard horror stories, of course. It is always a concern for guys, especially teenage guys - when you're horny ALL THE TIME. Probably the most embarrassing story I've heard is of a guy being examined by a nurse, and not only got an erection - but pre-ejaculated. :eek: The truth of the matter is, doctors and nurses see this all the time. It's completely normal. And if they're any good or respectful, they aren't going to bat an eyelash. The guy who pre-ejaculated? You know what the nurse did? Nothing. When she was done, she just handed him a tissue. That's it. The second thing I wanted to address is your thoughts surrounding masturbation. One reason you might be having the issues you're having is because you're extremely horny! One of the reasons I masturbate so frequently is to avoid situations similar to the one you're in. If I go two or three days without masturbating, I start to have trouble avoiding getting erections. When I masturbate regularly, I'm more-or-less in control. If I know I'm going somewhere where I have the potential to be turned on (like, say changing in a locker room full of guys, the doctors)... I masturbate. More than once. Why? Because it pretty much eliminates any chance of me not being able to control myself. If I didn't masturbate regularly, I'd be walking around with a hard-on all the time, and people would think me a pervert for sure. :lol: I'd also have trouble focusing. My mind will constantly wander and think about sex, it becomes difficult to focus and concentrate. I'll see an attractive guy? Sex. I see an unattractive guy? Eh, fuck it, throw a paper bag over his head, and I'd do it. :lol: Your feelings on masturbation are just that - feelings. You can change them if you want too. There is nothing selfish about masturbation... I consider it... self-love. And I love myself, right? So I need to self-love on a regular basis. You're no good at masturbation? How can that be? What is the issue? Are you having trouble reaching orgasm? Let me just say - if you aren't good at something - all it means is that you need practice. :icon_bigg Finally, I want to say.... I like your girlfriend. She sounds absolutely naughty in a good way. It also sounds as though this doesn't bother her at all, and that she likes the idea that she turns you on. Like Pinstripe, I feel it is a great form of flattery. It's better than the alternative, right?
I have to admit, I did feel weird and ashamed about masturbation at first. It doesn't help that female masturbation is just something that gets talked about so rarely. So the only advice I can give is just to relax and try to see it in a new light. It's not selfish, it's healthy. Stress-relieving. As far as not being good at it, I really don't think there's one "right" way to do it. Do what feels good to you. And getting in tune with your own body can only help you with your girlfriend as well, even if you haven't had "complete sex" yet. (Although I'm not entirely sure what you mean by that.) And Aldrick's totally right- just remember that your gynecologist has seen it all.
I see nothing wrong with having a high sex drive, it's completely natural for everyone. Just a tip though- Masturbation makes your sex drive go down, contrary to popular belief. If you're going to be doing gym, masturbating to a full orgasm, maybe even multiple times, can be helpful to make sure it doesn't happen during. If your girlfriend is aware of your situation, maybe it's time to take the next step so she's able to sexually satisfy you enough. That could actually be the root of this problem, you are very sexually attracted to this girl and want to do something badly subconsciously, and your brain is telling you this by your high sex drive. Perhaps once you have gone all the way with her, your sex drive will settle down. I'm not a doctor and I have absolutely no experience in this though, these are just my thoughts xD
