quick question: masturbate too much?

There is nothing wrong with masturbation, except society's hangups about it. And those are problems with society, not with masturbation.

 

The only time masturbation becomes a problem is when it effects your daily life and you are making plans and changing things around to fit in some "masturbating sessions." Otherwise, you are fine and perfectly normal.

 

No, I'd consider you completely normal. I'm thirty and I still masturbate every day, and I know a lot of guys even older than me who do it every day still as well. At nineteen it wouldn't even be abnormal for you to masturbate multiple times per day.

As for not feeling too orgasmic with it... well, what I've found is that not every orgasm you have is going to be mind blowing. Some of them are going to be like... "Wow, that's it?" Then others I've had were so strong I felt like I was almost about to black out. They run the gambit of great to crappy.

More than the orgasm itself though, is enjoying getting to that point. If you're trying to masturbate as fast as you can, as quietly as you can, to avoid notice then it's just not as good over all.

Compare that to breaking out the good porn, stripping completely naked, getting out your best lube, going slow, teasing and playing with yourself, taking your time, allowing yourself to make some noise and breathe... Really, a hard rough and fast "quickie" can never really compare to that.

If you want to enjoy masturbation more do that. Slow down, explore, try new things, and learn to enjoy it. Become the tortoise instead of the hare.

Most of us growing up at home learn to do it that way to avoid getting caught by parents and siblings. If you still live at home, there will be times when everyone leaves (say to go to the store / shopping) and you'll be left all alone. Seize upon the opportunities provided to you. :icon_wink

Masturbation and sex only become a problem when they begin to interfere with you living a normal and healthy life. Otherwise, masturbation and sex are NECESSARY to live a normal and healthy life. I'd be more concerned about someone with low to no sexual desire, than someone who has an over abundance of it.

 

Sorry, the tortoise and hare comment was just a reference to one of Aesop's Fables. It's a fable about a rabbit (a hare) and a tortoise (a turtle) entering into a race, where the turtle wins and the rabbit loses. Obviously, the turtle is slow and the rabbit is fast. Hence, the reference was a way to say, "Slow down and enjoy yourself - become the tortoise instead of the hare."

Honestly, I think having no time to really enjoy it is probably the problem. It's good and healthy to set aside time for yourself, not just for masturbation but just for general mental and emotional rejuvenation. You might not be able to do it once per day, but I say look to schedule some time for yourself at least once a week - even if it is just an hour.

Also, are you circumcised or natural? If you're circumcised then as a general rule, I always believe lube should be used - things get too rough otherwise. I don't really think you can damage yourself, but IMO the brain blocks out excessive stimulation. That leads to things not feeling as good as they should. Things like death grips and stuff like that is also bad, IMO.

I know some guys have issues with reaching an orgasm during partner sex due to the excessive amount of friction they're accustomed to during masturbation.

Just for personal enjoyment I'd encourage you to pick up some masturbation toys like the fleshjack (gay version of the fleshlight), or something even better.

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As for your testicle removal... well you shouldn't feel ashamed or embarrassed about that. Why was it removed?

As far as I'm aware you should function completely normal with just one testicle with no difference. When you're talking about the muscles in your legs, people often flex the muscles in their legs, abdomen, and ass as they approach an orgasm. That's normal.

Ejaculate - semen - actually comes from four different parts in your body. The bulk of your semen comes from the seminal vesicle - this is located inside your body near your bladder. The next major portion of your semen comes from your prostate, followed by the sperm itself from your testicle, and lastly the remaining fluid comes from the Cowper's gland. If you have pre-ejaculate (not all guys do), this comes from the Cowper's gland.

So the ejaculate isn't hugely impacted by the fact that you only have one testicle. And as far as I'm aware, this shouldn't have any impact on the strength or intensity of your orgasm either.

 

No, I say masturbate as often and as much as you want.

I'm just saying that you'd enjoy it more, and would probably have better orgasms if you weren't rushing. I mean, stop and think about it for a moment. How can you honestly enjoy yourself if you're worried about someone overhearing you, getting caught, and are telling yourself to hurry up and have an orgasm?

IMO, that's the reason your orgasms aren't all that great. I would expect anyone under that type of pressure to have weak / poor orgasms.

And - lol. I just tested it on myself, because honestly I never paid that much attention. If I tense my muscles in my legs and ass, I do tense way more on the right than the left. (I'm right handed.) So, I guess that's normal.

I think you're over analyzing things because you only have one testicle. Like I said, as far as I know, that shouldn't have any impact on your orgasms.

So, like I said - find some time when you can be alone, where you don't have to worry about anything, and just enjoy yourself. Go slow. Find some great porn that turns you on like crazy, and just relax. Take your time. That doesn't guarantee you a mind blowing orgasm, but it'll probably get you one that's better than the weak pitiful ones you're currently having.

 

I will also say that things are more "intense" on my right side as well during an orgasm. And yeah like it has been mentioned, quickie jack-offs aren't all that great orgasm wise. When I was younger I had to do that and usually had to do it more often as well since 1 was not very satisfying. But now that I'm older and have more privacy, I love edging for an hour or so a couple times a week. You really can't beat those orgasms. Lol :icon_redf Sometimes it's so good I don't even have the desire to masturbate for a couple days after that. All this talk and reading on this subject matter is getting me a little hot and bothered.. :laugh:

 

No, I'm saying I usually spend 1 hour, a couple times a week. Not daily, that is too much. Lol This is in addition to other, quicker sessions during the week. But I try to have at least 2 really good ones each week. :eusa_danc