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I'm not sure if this belongs here, but I felt I should share

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by SwordplayBoy, Oct 3, 2012.

  1. SwordplayBoy

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    Before I came out yesterday, I was in a very dark place. I'm still not completely okay, yet, but I'm a bit better. I used to have a need to cut myself a lot, but I haven't even thought about doing it all day. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

    (!!) :grin:
     
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    I know what you mean about a big weight being off your shoulders. It feels really good thats how i felt after i just told the first person. I wondered why i had waited so long. I'm really proud of you for doing it. And no more cutting yourself. I want to see you write back that you're not gonna do that anymore.
     
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    Yh cutting is not the answer and leaves u with more problems than it helps. Don't do it again If u can help it
     
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    hey I'm proud of you for getting through a day without cutting! the trick for me that helped me to significantly decrease and eventually stop cutting is to just focus on the now. Tomorrow and the next day will take care of themselves, so focus your energy today on getting through just today without hurting yourself.

    if you feel like cutting, delay and go for a walk or a run instead, or go do something else physical and demanding of effort. I find that physical activity often helps burn the energy away and takes my mind of things temporarily, and though I'll admit that I still want to cut sometimes, the desire is significantly lessened.

    I would also suggest looking into counseling, if you don't already have a counselor. they can help you find different strategies to overcome self-injury and find new coping mechanisms.

    Anyway, way to go! Both for coming out of the closet and for getting through your first day without self-injury. :slight_smile:
     
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    ia m so proud of you i kno exactly how you feel but i still cut but i am working on stopping
     
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    Thanks, everyone, I doubt I'll cut again. I'm too happy right now, I'm usually depressed and sulking around my house all day, but today I've been really happy. I recently heard from my grandpa, he's adjusting to it, but he hasn't fully come to terms with it.:lol:
     
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    Good to see that you're happy now. Even when you're not at times remember NO CUTTING. You're grandpa will definately make peace with it too sometimes changes just take time for people.
     
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    Yeah, he's dealing with it, I have no clue what's going on with my grandmother though. :confused: Apparently my grandfather had a few gay friends. We don't know how my grandma feels about gay people. Oh well, I'm sure things will be okay.
     
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    Yay! I'm glad you could come out. I have trouble coming out myself, I'm a bit frightened but I hint it sometimes. If you ever feel bad, maybe helping other people come out could make you feel better....just an FYI because sometimes I get repercussions of depression :slight_smile:
     
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    Yeah it will work out. A lot of times people who may not like gay people change their opinion when its someone they care about or know who is. If you ever need to talk just message me or something im usually on here at some point during the day after school and work.
     
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    Hey, Pyrotactick, I'm sure thins will work out for you. I don't really know your family though, so I could be wrong, if you want to talk more just message me.

    Hey, john1984, I probably will. So far things have been doing good, and I doubt my grandmother would hate me for this. I'm guessing, just like everyone else, she just needs to adjust.