Im totally new to this, but i newly found myself (kept to self still) and see myself as a top. Have only experimented a few times, but am curious as to what guys get out of being a bottom? What benefit / arousal do you get from this? Since when you masturbate, its with the penis. So making top make sense... Not trying to be ignorant, but looking for other opinions on this... Especially when it comes to non-partner (random) sexual encounters. IE. meet a guy at a bar, go home etc.... not with your significant other
The prostrate feels really good when it's stimulated...and well you can masturbate with toys to make that feel good *Blush*
Well, there are multiple things. Men do have very sensitive sensory nerves and their prostate in that area. Bottoming can easily be just as enjoyable as toping.(In some ways they can even go further because it requires more to 'finish' without the use of the penis. Not to forget, that he also can stimulate his own penis too). There are other pyschological reasons, but there are also pyschological reasons why men wish to top. I believe you mean more of the 'enjoyment factor', which is in reality quite equal.(Though it is usually a little harder the first time for bottoms lol).
In some ways, you're mixing two different things- the idea of being active/passive and the idea of being the giver/receiver in anal sex. We tend to try to use the words "top" and "bottom" to describe both but they are different things. There are people who enjoy being in control and there are people who enjoy surrendering control to another person. It's entirely possible to be the "controller" and be the person who is getting fucked. And it's entirely possible to be the person doing the fucking but also be completely dominated by the person on the receiving end. When we're talking physical sensations and not sex roles, there are people who really enjoy the sensations from their penis during sex. There are people who enjoy sensations in and around their anus. But the majority of people enjoy some combination of "all of the above" or are willing to negotiate to get laid. Keep in mind too that "gay" and "anal sex" are not the same thing. There are plenty of straight men and women who enjoy anal sex. And there are plenty of gay men who don't like anal at all. It's a lot less clear- and terms like "top" and "bottom" over-simplify something that is very complex.