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how to be safe .. ?

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by yes, Dec 3, 2012.

  1. yes

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    i'm wondering, if it's safe to sleep with someone you don't know if you use protection and watch what you're doing? and i mean two guys. like, what's safe what's not? i'm in a situation where i can't have a romantic relationship but the loneliness and sexual frustration is starting to really get to me. i just want not to feel like this, and i want to hold someone and not worry about them freaking out, i mean i try to manage with the little physical contact i get from my friends but it's not the same as you have to watch yourself. i'm considering just going with some stranger, but i wanna try and do it as safe as possible.

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    also, i think i should add i've got no previous experience with guys, i'm an adult, in my late teens.
     
  2. WilliamM

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    I think you should use a condom that would make everything more safe because you never know what a stranger may have. Look for someone close to your age but hey im just 18 i dont know to much haha. but from my experience with guys i always feel more safe with a condom on.
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    yeah a condom, definitely. condoms can break or slip off though and as i haven't done anything with a guy before i don't know if this tends to happen a lot when it's two guys..?
     
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    As long as you are it putting it on properly and are using lube then the chance of it breaking or slipping off is pretty negligible.
     
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    Not if you're using it right, no.

    However, if you've never done anything with a guy before, I'd recommend against hookup up with a total stranger. If you find someone online (which is probably what you're thinking about doing), likely they're not gonna give a fuck about you, all they're gonna care about is getting off themselves, and that doesn't lead to great sex. And it deffinitely doesn't lead to a good first time experience, especially if you're thinking about doing more than just messing around a bit.
     
  6. WilliamM

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    Yah someone you know a little better would be best and make sure you both use a condom to make it as safe as possible.
     
  7. yes

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    thanks for the advice guys.
    i suppose i'd find someone online or at a bar, as i don't want it to be someone who knows anyone who knows me. i'll think it over though, as you've got a valid point saying it's not really the best alternative..