Good books for sexual psychology? relationships, coming out?

I'm looking to research the psychology of gay men. I want to know more about why I avoid, avoid, avoid even allowing myself to meet someone. I know a lot of it has to do with fear of rejection, social anxiety, self-esteem, but I want to know more about the dynamics and the deep-rooted issues that affect my views. I feel I have a distorted view of relationships, maybe an extremely distorted view. I have idealized views that sound good, but it's not reality.

 

I just finished a short read that was far too simplistic. It offered some good advice, but I could have written it in a day or two. I had my first session with my new therapist yesterday, and I feel comfortable talking to him. He specializes in gay issues and he is also gay, so there's commonality. In my field, I research and study a lot, so I'm drawn to want to read more and answer/discredit my own theories and logic. After this last read, I won't be buying anymore books on gay men from amazon. The author is a doctor, for crying out loud, and it feels like the book is written by a well-educated high school student..