I am 19... in closet, virgin... but i don't know why, I have this urge to at least google pictures of hot men on internet at least once a day and even stimulate myself every day... is there a way to stop this? it's like i am addicted and it's more exciting than my boring college life lol. yes, you could say i am horny... but it's kind of invading my life because i have lose sleep and study time because of porn/pics of sexy men
Just find something else to focus on. But dude...you're 19...in the closet and virgin...I think your very first sentence is the issue. Your hormones are raging and you don't really have a...method of relieving except from jerking off. I don't see the issue EXCEPT if your actual grades are going down. If that's happening then maybe try to decrease the amount you watch/fap. Difficult I know but just remember school comes before your dick.
i have had some classes whose grade gone down last semester but i still couldn't resist @_@ LOL, school "comes" before my dick /jk, reading this humorously I wish I can just, oh, stick with that idea, but I just feel like sometimes good grades don't satisfy me as much as like, that sexual energy feeling @_@
It sounds like you are just a healthy college aged guy... When I was about your age, I remember wanting to quit jerking off more than once. In my case, it wasn't a time issue, it was more shame/embarrassment. But I had zero luck. If you can actually figure out a way of quitting that works 100% of the time, you could probably make a fortune selling the system to far right Christians who want to save their boys from the horrors of "self abuse." Instead, you might find ways of making your jerking off time more time efficient. One huge efficiency might be limiting porn. Maybe you are different, but I have found that searching out porn can be a huge time drain. For everything I see that, ah, interests me, I may find 10 things that leave me cold. And even once I find something I like, I seem to lose interest after a while. Instead, try using fantasy and your imagination. It may take some training--you are of the Internet porn era--but I do believe it pays off. Personally, given a choice between fantasy and porn, I'll go with fantasy every time. While porn can add an interesting dimension, I find fantasy can be richer, and always a 100% match to my tastes and interests.
sometimes i pause somewhere in porn and fill in my imagination. same goes for pictures. as for things that leave me cold, i am quite an easily amused person... there aren't a lot lol. i'll try brainstorming haha. maybe i'll look up parasite every time i feel horny lol
As I said, time wasn't ever a worry for me. But at your age, I usually jerked off in bed right before I was planning to sleep (either bedtime, or a nap). I can't say for sure, but I wouldn't be surprised if that approach didn't allow for time efficiency. I almost always fell asleep fast afterwards. Also cleanup was less of a worry than it would be if I had to zip up, and go out to a class or something. ---------- Post added 23rd Mar 2013 at 04:36 PM ---------- Good! Even if you are easily amused, you might try to figure out how much time gets lost on porn. If it's a lot, you have an area where you can possibly get time reductions. Maybe pictures of nude women would help you lose interest!
All things in moderation Ticklish I think masturbation is healthy, whether single or in a relationship. Just, you never want anything to become an obsession and let it interfere with your social life, academic life, etc. You're fine though!
