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25, virgin, horny to hook up, but scared?

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by jackinthebox, Apr 23, 2013.

  1. jackinthebox

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    I've been asked for hookups by so many peeps on online dating sites and I honestly can't wait but I keep reading online about how STDs can spread in so many ways even with protection to the extent of trivial things by bodily contact, kissing, rimming, penises just coming in contact with each other, blah blah blah.

    All this freaks me out. I don't know what to do. Should I just avoid it and continue jerking off to porn?

    I don't feel like getting into a relationship atm because the first guy I dated for a year broke up his friendship with me last year and left me wounded. Both of us were virgins but we never had sex.
     
  2. Lexington

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    Wearing a condom (and using lots of lube) during anal will reduce your chances of getting any STIs dramatically. I usually compare it to "running across a busy street in the middle of an intersection over and over" vs "walking along the sidewalk". Yeah, a car might leap the curb and strike you even when you're just walking along the sidewalk. But the odds of that happening are much less than if you kept darting into traffic.

    To ensure further safety, "on me, not in me". Don't ejaculate inside each other's mouth. The odds of catching something by that route are quite low, but it can increase your safety even further if you feel you'd like that extra protection.

    That said, another smart move is learning how to weed through the offers and potential hook-ups, and find the one most likely to provide a fun and exciting experience, and least likely to end up with a disappointing (or stalker-ish) experience. I can discuss this with you via PM if you'd like.

    Lex
     
  3. jackinthebox

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    Thanks. Sent you a PM.