So, it finally happened... I figured it never would, and I'd be a virgin until well into college, but it happened... And it wasn't horribly akward like I thought it would be!! It was akward though... We were at a party, and I was the designated sober, and my good friend was slightly buzzed. It started as really cute and innocent cuddling, and the progressed until it hit the high-point. My concerns are this... At first, I couldn't get an erection. I attribute this to nerves, because when I let it all go and relaxed, everything was fine. My second and biggest issue was that it took me a lot longer to ejaculate than I feel it should have. Since there were four friends asleep in the room who could wake up at any point, I attribute this to nerves too. But all the friends I talk to said that they had no problems with erections or ejaculation. And it makes me think that possibly something is wrong with me. My biggest fear, as ridiculous as it might be, is that I'm not gay afterall. It may seem strange, but for 4 years of my life, I thought I knew who I was and who I liked. I doubt this is the case because when the thought first entered my mind I looked at heterosexual porn and no reaction came from me at all. But it's still a fear...
Did you enjoyed it, at all? Did you thought about him as a girl while ye were doing it? Did you wished he was a girl? First, tell us it was protected, wasn't it? Second of all, it is *normal* for it to take that long since it was 1. your first time and 2. 4 other ppl sleeping in the room, you were obviously concerned about them waking up and What a surprise they'd have and second, you not foing it right since it was the first time. If time passes and in the next times you still have issues with erections or ejaculating (taking too much or too fast) go to your doctor, errr forgot the name of the specialist, lol. Good luck.
Yes I enjoyed No I didn't wish he was a woman, would've been strange since I was receiving And yes, of course, it was protected
It's just your nerves and you have your mind probably focused more on the four other people waking up and seeing you and him doing it. I probably would never even take my clothes off if that happens to me. So don't worry about. If you two decide to do it again, just be sure to be more discrete about it, so you'll actually have fun
If anything thats a good thing! Yup its nerves/feeling uncomforatble. Happens to alot of people, happens to me too. Your just going through the natural progression of sex
One of the problems with porn and generally how people talk about sex is that there gets to be this presumption that men can just "perform" totally on demand. And I think when you're talking about your first time and you're talking about getting fucked and you're talking about other people being in the room... I'm surprised you didn't pass out from nervousness! The truth of the matter is that not everyone gets hard getting fucked or at least not all the time, even if they're enjoying it. And yeah if you factor in the fact it was your very first time... sounds to me like you have absolutely nothing to be worried about, except maybe finding a more private place the next time your friend decides to cuddle with you all cute and innocent-like. Oh and as for taking a long time to cum? Some people have incredible difficulty cumming when other people are involved, no matter how experienced they are. It's usually something that does improve the better and longer you know someone because I think on a lot of levels it's a trust issue. But it's generally not anything to be concerned about because there's a LOT more to good sex than cumming. A LOT!
People hate admitting to doubts about their performance on the first time...I wouldn't worry about it. A fair percentage of them are lying!!
Well, I knew I was gay for a long while... first time I kissed a girl, I kept thinking it was a guy. First time I kissed a guy, it felt so right. And then I kissed a girl and I even got a bit turned on... although it felt much better with a guy. Then again, I'm still virgin (in all possible ways) so I don't know yet.
