Why is there a prolific amount bottoms out there, and lack tops?

100% top
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ok 98%

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perhaps its the feminisation effect on the brain?

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that is, if we are talking about gay men

 

I suppose as a bottom, you can stimulate your penis while your prostate and anal/rectal nerve endings are already being stimulated. As a top, only your penis is stimulated.

 

Over the years, I've heard gay guys complain that there's too many bottoms and, as often, I've heard gay guys complaining that all they meet are guys who just want to top them.

It's like Goldilocks... only with buttsex instead of porridge.

Maybe the problem is not the number of bottoms but instead maybe it's how you're meeting guys and what you're looking for when you meet them?

 

Its actually a bit odd, because although there actually isn't such an even ratio in the real world, it appears as so online.

In my opinion, its commonly a matter of curiosity. Many inexperienced men are more likely to be curious about receiving than penetrating, because receiving would be the most foreign to anything they have likely experience by themselves. Though in reality it isn't for everyone.

Though I agree with Kara, there seem to be many more men in the real world that prefer top'ing.

 

This is why I'd have to have a dildo in my butt while topping...

 

Maybe bottoms are more vocal about it. I don't really know. I'm a top though so it's not like we don't exist.

 

Well, where are you getting your "data" on the percentage of tops and bottoms? If you're getting it from here, something to keep in mind is that we're a support forum for people who need help and/or support coming out, so we're more likely to have shy, passive people here. And my guess is that those kinds of people would probably be more drawn to buttoming than topping.

 

Lol that last part made my night, anyway, over here on my end, I'm about a 95% Bottom, doesn't mean I wouldn't like to be on top now and then. lol

 

I'd say that I would be a vers, that would prefer to top. I agree with what Kara said, maybe you've just met a lot of bottoms by coincidence.

 

BAHAHAHAH! Great analogy. May I steal it?
I totally agree with this guy. I usually find people with these kind of complaints have a very narrow line up of prospects of which to socialise with.

Just saying...

 

I'm pretty sure there's not a "prolific" amount of bottoms, but if there is then good for me :lol:

All the best.

 

This bit here. I mean, I've done both, and enjoyed both, but my preference is usually bottoming. I just find it less strenuous and more enjoyable. Maybe the shy passive bit is a part of it?

 

Perhaps because a lot of tops don't want to actually empty their closet, but rather pretend they are still masculine straight men dominating femme gay men. At least, on the apps it sure seems like a lot of tops are "on the DL" looking for some ass on the side...

 

Well, that's the whole point of apps - for people too "DL" (read: chicken) to go out and actually meet real people.

 

Ha, well I respectfully disagree, I don't go on there because I'm "DL" or "chicken", I go on there to meet people. There are people of all sorts on all different apps all looking for different things. Apps are ways of actually meeting real people. And personally I think it is better to get to know someone that way, rather than the overly idealized old-fashioned way of just meeting some random guy in a bar.

However that's all besides the point of this topic. "Strictly top", "on the DL", uber-masc types are one archetype to be found on the apps, but they're hardly the only people on there, or else I would have deleted them long ago. Of course that description doesn't even describe all tops, just the sort of guys who feel the need to constantly remind everyone that they're strictly tops lest anyone think they might be gay or something.

Having a preference one way or the other is fine and normal, but absolutely refusing to even consider trying the other position out is a sign of insecurity in my opinion. Being able to switch it up at least every once in a while would be a necessity for a vibrant gay relationship imo.

I mean that's the advantage of gay maledom after all, both partners have penises and holes to stick them in, making swapping sexual positions very easy and intuitive...

Straight couples can't do that. I suppose the girl could wear a strap-on, but she wouldn't feel anything from that of course, and most straight guys would be way too insecure to ever allow a girl to penetrate them anyway.

 

Yeah, I suppose that should have been my first clue... though you'd be surprised how many kinky couples do engage in pegging and anal play.

Strap-on dildo - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

You can always get involved in a sandwich and this becomes a non-issue. (Post 400).

 

Me and my ex girlfriend were partial to abit of pegging from time to time. Alot more common than you might think. Suppose it was the kinky aspect of it all that appealed the most. Also the girl does get stimulated provided you get the right strap on or strapless as the case may be. The sex industry would never allow such a thing to be overlooked.